Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Up and Downs?

TheNewGuy

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Does anyone else feel like they're finally starting to get some DJ results one hour... then the next you feel like your old AFC self?

Arggggg, how do I stop feeling like this?!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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toddC

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Yes, all the time I feel liek I aquired some new skills but then realized taht I didn't lol...it sucks but give it time adn you will actually aquire the skills :)
 

Zaraza

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That is all in the process of learning and growing, for that one hour you feel like you are the man. Just wait, that feeling will stick around.

i go through ups and downs my self, but its a part of life, you will never realize the accomplishments in your life unless you have seen yourself fail.

thats the basic concept and idea.
 

adit

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You have to first find out why you're feeling like that.Usually when we're DJ newbs we're on a high when we get a phone number,for a couple of hours only.After a while when we find out that the girl is a little resistant,we're down again.

But most of the times,we feel down because we create webs in our minds and start thinking crap,even though we just got a couple of digits.A lot of times we feel like AFCs because of our imagination.Your imagination cheats you,a lot,especially when you're new.

Keep the game up and you wont feel like that anymore.
 

08aisaac

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After a while, your success won't be that big a deal. I was at school, got two numbers one after another. From fairly hot chicks. But that's not success for me, success is getting to the next step. Eventually, success will be finding a girl who isn't crazy.
Set your goals high.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Microphone Fiend

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focus on the positive highs you get. Defocus from the negative and it will matter less. Everyone has negative times but the successful people dont dwell on it
 
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