"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Up and Downs?

TheNewGuy

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Does anyone else feel like they're finally starting to get some DJ results one hour... then the next you feel like your old AFC self?

Arggggg, how do I stop feeling like this?!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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toddC

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Yes, all the time I feel liek I aquired some new skills but then realized taht I didn't lol...it sucks but give it time adn you will actually aquire the skills :)
 

Zaraza

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That is all in the process of learning and growing, for that one hour you feel like you are the man. Just wait, that feeling will stick around.

i go through ups and downs my self, but its a part of life, you will never realize the accomplishments in your life unless you have seen yourself fail.

thats the basic concept and idea.
 

adit

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You have to first find out why you're feeling like that.Usually when we're DJ newbs we're on a high when we get a phone number,for a couple of hours only.After a while when we find out that the girl is a little resistant,we're down again.

But most of the times,we feel down because we create webs in our minds and start thinking crap,even though we just got a couple of digits.A lot of times we feel like AFCs because of our imagination.Your imagination cheats you,a lot,especially when you're new.

Keep the game up and you wont feel like that anymore.
 

08aisaac

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After a while, your success won't be that big a deal. I was at school, got two numbers one after another. From fairly hot chicks. But that's not success for me, success is getting to the next step. Eventually, success will be finding a girl who isn't crazy.
Set your goals high.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Microphone Fiend

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focus on the positive highs you get. Defocus from the negative and it will matter less. Everyone has negative times but the successful people dont dwell on it
 
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