"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Underage (by 4 weeks) girl added me on Facebook and now wants to meet.

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Moneytalks

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A girl (underage) added me on Facebook and MSN, now wants to meet
This girl is moving to London a few days before xmas from about 60 miles from here (no public transport to easily get me to where she is now, which sucks), and I still have my old Facebook location as London as I visit every few weeks to see my dad.

So she was going round on Facebook adding people because she doesn't know anyone down there (she's American which I guess makes her feel a bit of an outsider as well). She's constantly flirting with me and it's her that initiates sexual flirting on MSN!

I'm heading down to London after xmas to see my dad, and she wants to meet up. Normally I'd be well up for it, but she's 15 and doesn't turn 16 (legal) until the end of January. She suggested we go to her place as it's "more private" and because London was cold when she went in winter before (it really is cold there in January. I met my ex girlfriend there one January and it was freezing cold).

Thoughts?
Should I attempt to smash it? She said she's not a virgin so that makes me feel better about it.
Or should I steer clear until she's legal?

EDIT: I'm 18 by the way.

Moneytalks
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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see her but dont do anything until the 4 weeks are done. WOW 16 is legal. if your only going to be there for a short time it might be good. we will see what everyone else says.
 
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Moneytalks

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Yeah, in London for 10 days this time and it'll be the last time until April, I should think.
 
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Seriously considering jailbait when there are millions of hot women running around reeks of desperation. In my book, no circumstances will ever justify risking 2 years in jail and destroying the rest of your life...

Just picture your business card 10 years from now: instead of Moneytalks, MBA/JD/MD/PhD/etc... it's gonna read "Moneytalks, sexual offender."

Imagin having to explain that to EVERY SINGLE woman you will meet for the next 40+ years.

All of a sudden that 15 y.o. poonani don't sound that good, does it?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Moneytalks

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Yeah. I'm just gonna have to tell her I'm not going to London thus can't meet her. She said her friend just commited suicide so I don't really want to make things worse...

Plus, my business card is more likely to say

Moneytalks, Cpt (RN), BEng, MEng :D
 
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Moneytalks

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I've been kind of knowing I shouldn't go for a 15 year old but just wanted confirmation. I just sent her an email telling her I don't think it's a good idea to carry on talking as we are and even worse that we meet in January.

Any of you fellas in London for New Year's eve? :D
 
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I'm not 100% sure, but any activity, conversations of a sexual nature with someone under the age of consent is classified as grooming isn't it? Steer clear if you fancy your freedom.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Drag it out for a month before doing anything with her. If you don't live in London and she's so far from there then that shouldn't be a problem at all.
 
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Yeah. She said (luckily) she agrees that we shouldn't meet in January and if we're still talking at all in February then go for it then. Though I think I'm gonna steer clear.
 
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realsmoothie said:
Any girl who just throws herself at people on Facebook is bad news.
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My thoughts exactly. This whole story just sounds weird.
 
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I don't know if they have a sex offender registry in London but I would steer clear from her until she's legal. Seeing that 16 is legal over there and you're just 18 then it shouldn't be too bad. I know in America people would look at you as a lame even though you're so close in age. Nobody wants to be that 18 year old that has his picture on the news because he messed with somebody a little younger than they'd prefer.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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