"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Unconsistency
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Out of curiosity, are the days when you feel confident days in which you haven't masturbated in a while? And are the days where you feel unconfident 1-2 days after you've masturbated?Alive said:Its odd....some days I'll feel confident and talk to maybe a girl or 2 a day. Then some days I'll walk into school and feel totally not confident to do what I need to do. Does anyone else get this? What might the cause be?
I dont masturbate...Brighty said:Out of curiosity, are the days when you feel confident days in which you haven't masturbated in a while? And are the days where you feel unconfident 1-2 days after you've masturbated?
theobserver
Don Juan
strauss' book also says similar things, and gives examples on how to reframe your mindset. but that's what its all about, reframing your mindset. what you think you will become. the way i convinced myself is how much better i feel when i'm in that strong frame, and that's i'd rather live life in this frame than in any other ones, because to me it's empowering. so give yourself reasons to get into that mindset, and it'll happen naturally. hope i helped. good luck man.Snow Plowman said:Exactly, its like your interpretation of reality. If you look back at some of the natural's I write about, some of them think they are the coolest guy in the world and so they have behavior patterns of a guy who is like that.
If your frame is weak you take on the other person's frame. Reality is whatver you think it is. When I first started hanging with these dudes I used to always get sucked into there frame and so it was hard to interact with them. But after awhile we just had mutual respect and we never threw our frames on each other, only playfully.
Patrick
theobserver said:I also get this, this just happened to me last week as a matter of fact. but now i'm all good =]. i looked it up and it has to do with your frame, that is, your perception on things. what is taught here is to have a "strong" unbreakable frame. certain mindsets lead to certain actions, how you get into this strong framed mindset, well i pretty much convinced myself to, but i read in neil strauss's book, and also in one of the posts here "My natural friends mindset" by Snow Plowman:
strauss' book also says similar things, and gives examples on how to reframe your mindset. but that's what its all about, reframing your mindset. what you think you will become. the way i convinced myself is how much better i feel when i'm in that strong frame, and that's i'd rather live life in this frame than in any other ones, because to me it's empowering. so give yourself reasons to get into that mindset, and it'll happen naturally. hope i helped. good luck man.
Patrick
Ahh, that makes sense. Thank you
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.