Unconsistency

[Alive]

Its odd....some days I'll feel confident and talk to maybe a girl or 2 a day. Then some days I'll walk into school and feel totally not confident to do what I need to do. Does anyone else get this? What might the cause be?

 

[Brighty]

Its odd....some days I'll feel confident and talk to maybe a girl or 2 a day. Then some days I'll walk into school and feel totally not confident to do what I need to do. Does anyone else get this? What might the cause be?

Out of curiosity, are the days when you feel confident days in which you haven't masturbated in a while? And are the days where you feel unconfident 1-2 days after you've masturbated?

 

[Alive]

Out of curiosity, are the days when you feel confident days in which you haven't masturbated in a while? And are the days where you feel unconfident 1-2 days after you've masturbated?

I dont masturbate...

 

[theobserver]

I also get this, this just happened to me last week as a matter of fact. but now i'm all good =]. i looked it up and it has to do with your frame, that is, your perception on things. what is taught here is to have a "strong" unbreakable frame. certain mindsets lead to certain actions, how you get into this strong framed mindset, well i pretty much convinced myself to, but i read in neil strauss's book, and also in one of the posts here "My natural friends mindset" by Snow Plowman:

Exactly, its like your interpretation of reality. If you look back at some of the natural's I write about, some of them think they are the coolest guy in the world and so they have behavior patterns of a guy who is like that.

If your frame is weak you take on the other person's frame. Reality is whatver you think it is. When I first started hanging with these dudes I used to always get sucked into there frame and so it was hard to interact with them. But after awhile we just had mutual respect and we never threw our frames on each other, only playfully.

strauss' book also says similar things, and gives examples on how to reframe your mindset. but that's what its all about, reframing your mindset. what you think you will become. the way i convinced myself is how much better i feel when i'm in that strong frame, and that's i'd rather live life in this frame than in any other ones, because to me it's empowering. so give yourself reasons to get into that mindset, and it'll happen naturally. hope i helped. good luck man.

Patrick

 

[Alive]

I also get this, this just happened to me last week as a matter of fact. but now i'm all good =]. i looked it up and it has to do with your frame, that is, your perception on things. what is taught here is to have a "strong" unbreakable frame. certain mindsets lead to certain actions, how you get into this strong framed mindset, well i pretty much convinced myself to, but i read in neil strauss's book, and also in one of the posts here "My natural friends mindset" by Snow Plowman:


strauss' book also says similar things, and gives examples on how to reframe your mindset. but that's what its all about, reframing your mindset. what you think you will become. the way i convinced myself is how much better i feel when i'm in that strong frame, and that's i'd rather live life in this frame than in any other ones, because to me it's empowering. so give yourself reasons to get into that mindset, and it'll happen naturally. hope i helped. good luck man.

Patrick

Ahh, that makes sense. Thank you