"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Out of curiosity, are the days when you feel confident days in which you haven't masturbated in a while? And are the days where you feel unconfident 1-2 days after you've masturbated?Alive said:Its odd....some days I'll feel confident and talk to maybe a girl or 2 a day. Then some days I'll walk into school and feel totally not confident to do what I need to do. Does anyone else get this? What might the cause be?
I dont masturbate...Brighty said:Out of curiosity, are the days when you feel confident days in which you haven't masturbated in a while? And are the days where you feel unconfident 1-2 days after you've masturbated?
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strauss' book also says similar things, and gives examples on how to reframe your mindset. but that's what its all about, reframing your mindset. what you think you will become. the way i convinced myself is how much better i feel when i'm in that strong frame, and that's i'd rather live life in this frame than in any other ones, because to me it's empowering. so give yourself reasons to get into that mindset, and it'll happen naturally. hope i helped. good luck man.Snow Plowman said:Exactly, its like your interpretation of reality. If you look back at some of the natural's I write about, some of them think they are the coolest guy in the world and so they have behavior patterns of a guy who is like that.
If your frame is weak you take on the other person's frame. Reality is whatver you think it is. When I first started hanging with these dudes I used to always get sucked into there frame and so it was hard to interact with them. But after awhile we just had mutual respect and we never threw our frames on each other, only playfully.
Patrick
theobserver said:I also get this, this just happened to me last week as a matter of fact. but now i'm all good =]. i looked it up and it has to do with your frame, that is, your perception on things. what is taught here is to have a "strong" unbreakable frame. certain mindsets lead to certain actions, how you get into this strong framed mindset, well i pretty much convinced myself to, but i read in neil strauss's book, and also in one of the posts here "My natural friends mindset" by Snow Plowman:
strauss' book also says similar things, and gives examples on how to reframe your mindset. but that's what its all about, reframing your mindset. what you think you will become. the way i convinced myself is how much better i feel when i'm in that strong frame, and that's i'd rather live life in this frame than in any other ones, because to me it's empowering. so give yourself reasons to get into that mindset, and it'll happen naturally. hope i helped. good luck man.
Patrick
Ahh, that makes sense. Thank you
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.