"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Out of curiosity, are the days when you feel confident days in which you haven't masturbated in a while? And are the days where you feel unconfident 1-2 days after you've masturbated?Alive said:Its odd....some days I'll feel confident and talk to maybe a girl or 2 a day. Then some days I'll walk into school and feel totally not confident to do what I need to do. Does anyone else get this? What might the cause be?
I dont masturbate...Brighty said:Out of curiosity, are the days when you feel confident days in which you haven't masturbated in a while? And are the days where you feel unconfident 1-2 days after you've masturbated?
theobserver
Don Juan
strauss' book also says similar things, and gives examples on how to reframe your mindset. but that's what its all about, reframing your mindset. what you think you will become. the way i convinced myself is how much better i feel when i'm in that strong frame, and that's i'd rather live life in this frame than in any other ones, because to me it's empowering. so give yourself reasons to get into that mindset, and it'll happen naturally. hope i helped. good luck man.Snow Plowman said:Exactly, its like your interpretation of reality. If you look back at some of the natural's I write about, some of them think they are the coolest guy in the world and so they have behavior patterns of a guy who is like that.
If your frame is weak you take on the other person's frame. Reality is whatver you think it is. When I first started hanging with these dudes I used to always get sucked into there frame and so it was hard to interact with them. But after awhile we just had mutual respect and we never threw our frames on each other, only playfully.
Patrick
theobserver said:I also get this, this just happened to me last week as a matter of fact. but now i'm all good =]. i looked it up and it has to do with your frame, that is, your perception on things. what is taught here is to have a "strong" unbreakable frame. certain mindsets lead to certain actions, how you get into this strong framed mindset, well i pretty much convinced myself to, but i read in neil strauss's book, and also in one of the posts here "My natural friends mindset" by Snow Plowman:
strauss' book also says similar things, and gives examples on how to reframe your mindset. but that's what its all about, reframing your mindset. what you think you will become. the way i convinced myself is how much better i feel when i'm in that strong frame, and that's i'd rather live life in this frame than in any other ones, because to me it's empowering. so give yourself reasons to get into that mindset, and it'll happen naturally. hope i helped. good luck man.
Patrick
Ahh, that makes sense. Thank you
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.