"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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jhonny9546

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Just an example from modern era
http://instagr.am/p/C-6WJTCsSQI/


so unbalanced.
Which are the reason in your opinion?
For me, money.

Money brings so many opportunities for these women, so much to travel and enjoy life, why do they need to chose a real man when they actually can secure a rich guy
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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he looks fine. not fat, taller than her. clean, CLEAN, good smile, he actually looks like a winner.... his shoulders look small... girl is average...
 

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I assume that you believe she's too hot for him? In my assessment, he's not ugly per se, and she's a solid 7. This is a fairly average pairing
This was my assessment as well. One can always be wrong, but based off of what I see, they appear to be happy and healthy. Probably good family ties? Stuff like that matters too.
 

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Hi Jhonny,
Yes,that Guy has done very well for himself...I see her as a solid 8,at face value he is struggling to reach the 50 percentile...I agree with your surmise,the Guy must have money and status.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I think guys put more value on looks than women do. Women value what a guy can provide. I bet that guy has a few things going for him that make up for his lack of looks. She is a solid 8 face wise.
 

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@The Duke yes he can just provide the lifestyle, but I just say that this guy can actually be cheated on very easly.
Then, we don't know how much she's faking it. Women adore that a man could provide that lifestyle.
he looks fine
Maybe here in Italy we've different standards of what is fine
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@The Duke yes he can just provide the lifestyle, but I just say that this guy can actually be cheated on very easly.
Then, we don't know how much she's faking it. Women adore that a man could provide that lifestyle.

Maybe here in Italy we've different standards of what is fine
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The looks gap appears wider in this second photo than the first one. His chin looks very weak here whereas she looks better.
 

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Hi tiyuu,
" It doesn't matter nearly as much as you think. " Well yeah,but only up to a point,
a point I believe he goes past.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You guys need to get over your fixation on male looks.

It doesn't matter nearly as much as you think.
If we have this fixation on this quality of "appearance," it means you may have understood some things, that appearance is therefore not as important as other things, but you are still fixated on these other qualities.

What are they?
 

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If we have this fixation on this quality of "appearance," it means you may have understood some things, that appearance is therefore not as important as other things, but you are still fixated on these other qualities.

What are they?
I've noticed you have a lot of "this=therefore that" thinking.
 

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That actually makes a lot of sense and reaffirms most of my responses to you... Women's behavior doesn't follow logic or reason. If you understand a woman's emotions and reactions, it CAN start to make some sense. At least to the point of you being able to understand woen. But her behavior still will not make sense as far as "this vs that" or raw logic.
 

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Another point you fistfvcking incels might be missing is she has probably spent tons of money and time getting ready for this photoshoot.

Probably even starving herself for weeks to prepare for the "big day."

A girl in her wedding pictures is going to make herself look as absolutely as beautiful as she can.

I doubt she's nearly as hot as you guys think she is.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What are they?
 
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