For the last two months I have been talking to this married woman who is now getting divorced. I know she likes me and I like her, but I also know that at this workplace of her's there are scores of guys that are after her. I don't have her number, I never gave her mine, I was respectful of the fact that she was married. I flirt with her and tell her how much she would have fun with me and I tease her about all the guys that are after her. But I have not been pursuing her aggresively like others. I was involved with a married woman in the past and would not like to do that again. But now that she is getting divorced, I feel like I would like to get to know her better. I just don't want to fight for her affection. I don't want to compete with other guys. I am 32 yrs old and I have other things to worry about. What is the best way to go about this. Should I have her come to me? Should I just stand back and let her date (rebound) with other guys? The married woman I was involved with in the past fuvked with my head (she said she was getting divorced, but never did) so I don't want to get fuvked over by this girl. But I also would love to hook up with her cause she is very attractive. What do I do since she is finalizing her divorce???? I feel like if some other guy takes her out and she has fun, I will be regreting it. Thanks for your help. How the hell do I proceed here. No experience with girls who are getting divorced....
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Ummmm.........so there's this married girl.........
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
amoka
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Never trust a woman who is married and tells you she is in the "process of getting divorced". Hoping/wishing to have an exclusive relationship with such a woman is a fruitless venture. FB/FwB should be the most you should have with women as such.
kingsam
Master Don Juan
think of her as a "living fleshlite" , nothing more.....
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
“Those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it”
This is a bad idea for so many reasons, but the biggest reason is YOU'VE ALREADY BEEN DOWN THIS PATH and got d-icked and now like a blind lamb being lead to slaughter you want to do it again?!!
There are only a handful of men who can truly disassociate their emotions from their c-ock in a situation like this and you have already proven your incapable of this....
If you have trouble meeting women, figure out why. Once you figure this out, resolve these issues and you will have more options.
PIMP
This is a bad idea for so many reasons, but the biggest reason is YOU'VE ALREADY BEEN DOWN THIS PATH and got d-icked and now like a blind lamb being lead to slaughter you want to do it again?!!
There are only a handful of men who can truly disassociate their emotions from their c-ock in a situation like this and you have already proven your incapable of this....
If you have trouble meeting women, figure out why. Once you figure this out, resolve these issues and you will have more options.
PIMP