For the last two months I have been talking to this married woman who is now getting divorced. I know she likes me and I like her, but I also know that at this workplace of her's there are scores of guys that are after her. I don't have her number, I never gave her mine, I was respectful of the fact that she was married. I flirt with her and tell her how much she would have fun with me and I tease her about all the guys that are after her. But I have not been pursuing her aggresively like others. I was involved with a married woman in the past and would not like to do that again. But now that she is getting divorced, I feel like I would like to get to know her better. I just don't want to fight for her affection. I don't want to compete with other guys. I am 32 yrs old and I have other things to worry about. What is the best way to go about this. Should I have her come to me? Should I just stand back and let her date (rebound) with other guys? The married woman I was involved with in the past fuvked with my head (she said she was getting divorced, but never did) so I don't want to get fuvked over by this girl. But I also would love to hook up with her cause she is very attractive. What do I do since she is finalizing her divorce???? I feel like if some other guy takes her out and she has fun, I will be regreting it. Thanks for your help. How the hell do I proceed here. No experience with girls who are getting divorced....
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Ummmm.........so there's this married girl.........
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
amoka
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Never trust a woman who is married and tells you she is in the "process of getting divorced". Hoping/wishing to have an exclusive relationship with such a woman is a fruitless venture. FB/FwB should be the most you should have with women as such.
kingsam
Master Don Juan
think of her as a "living fleshlite" , nothing more.....
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Pimp-sicle
Master Don Juan
“Those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it”
This is a bad idea for so many reasons, but the biggest reason is YOU'VE ALREADY BEEN DOWN THIS PATH and got d-icked and now like a blind lamb being lead to slaughter you want to do it again?!!
There are only a handful of men who can truly disassociate their emotions from their c-ock in a situation like this and you have already proven your incapable of this....
If you have trouble meeting women, figure out why. Once you figure this out, resolve these issues and you will have more options.
PIMP
This is a bad idea for so many reasons, but the biggest reason is YOU'VE ALREADY BEEN DOWN THIS PATH and got d-icked and now like a blind lamb being lead to slaughter you want to do it again?!!
There are only a handful of men who can truly disassociate their emotions from their c-ock in a situation like this and you have already proven your incapable of this....
If you have trouble meeting women, figure out why. Once you figure this out, resolve these issues and you will have more options.
PIMP