"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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UK to US: Living in America

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Sup, Somewhere between the next three to ten years, i'm looking to formulate plans to live in America. Yes sounds pretty simply in theory but of course, it isnt.

I know a little about work visa opitions, but not enough. So for anyone who has made or knows about any such transitions who can fill me in on what i need to know, what foundations need to be laid and how i should go about certain things, it would be much appreciated.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You need a sponsor to get a green card. If you have very valuable skills, a large company could sponsor you. Usually a spouse is the sponsor; sometimes it works if you have close family in the US. That's pretty much it as far as legal options. If you have tradesman skills that are in high demand, you might be able to get paid under the table.
 
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That means if I get someone who says that is able to sponsor me I can get a green card, even coming from a third world country?

Or is that just for people from England?
 
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No, sorry if I was unclear. You need a sponsor that is approved by the US Gov't. Spouses pretty much get automatic approval as a sponsor. If you had elderly parents here who needed your care, or children who are US citizens, that would work also. With any blood relative in the US, you could at least apply and see what they say. And like I said, large corporations have enough money and lawyers to work the system so that they get the employees they need, especially in highly skilled jobs like computer programming and engineering.

Truthfully, our immigration system stinks. The US gov't treats people who could contribute to this country like 'damn foreigners.' Because of how difficult it is to be a legal immigrant, we have a large underground of illegal immigrants working for cash. They do fine, until they get picked up on any kind of criminal charge, even speeding, and then they are sent to INS detention prison and later deported. I have visited these detention centers, and they are full of sad stories, like people whose only crime is being brought here by their parents when they were small children.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Student Visa...nuff said
 
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You could always find some guy and make a deal with him, get a gay marriage and get a green card.
 
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Create Reality said:
You could always find some guy and make a deal with him, get a gay marriage and get a green card.
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There's no women in America?

wow
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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That better not be no James Brown video. Infact i know it probably is, so i won't click it.

Zzzzz......
 
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