So I was outside a Starbucks the other day and I went to sit at one of the tables outside and smoke a cigar. There were two separate girls who didn't know each other at separate tables. I asked them both if they had a lighter. I got a lighter from one of them, lit my cigar, then sit down at an empty table. As soon as I sit down at the empty table they both get up and walk away. Wow, and you guys worry about your appearance. I must me be an ogre for them to get up and walk away immediately. This was in broad daylight in a fairly crowded area by the way. And they were both smokers as well so it wasn't like they disliked smoking.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Two separate girls moved away when I sat near them
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Igetit!
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Well,it's possible that they were offended by the cigar smoke. Just a hunch.
It was a light cigar and they were both smokers too, so I doubt that was the problem.Igetit! said:Well,it's possible that they were offended by the cigar smoke. Just a hunch.
daygameguy
Master Don Juan
Sometimes if you come across as a player, smoking cigar and doing small talk, girls feel threatened. It's very very subtle. These things happen from time to time.lazikia said:It was a light cigar and they were both smokers too, so I doubt that was the problem.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Igetit!
Moderator
I don't think they would leave just because you sat down. There could be a million reasons why they left and all of them having nothing to do with you.
Maybe they had to be somewhere and had only planned on sitting there for a few minutes. Who knows. Since you don't know the real reason, there's no since in making one up and making yourself feel bad.
Maybe they had to be somewhere and had only planned on sitting there for a few minutes. Who knows. Since you don't know the real reason, there's no since in making one up and making yourself feel bad.
Prodigy746
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You are thinking way to much about it, they probobly had to leave, people dont spend too much time and coffee places. If you start thinking about it youll notice someone always leaving when you sit near them because people just have to leave do other things lolz.
yea would have to agree with prodigy, you shouldn't be bothered from small things like that. It happens all the time. trying thinking less and worrying less. Yea there could be a small chance that these women moved because of you, but then again the chances are slim, and even if they did, wow, big deal, two snobby bi5ches! Quite common everywhere really
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.