So I was outside a Starbucks the other day and I went to sit at one of the tables outside and smoke a cigar. There were two separate girls who didn't know each other at separate tables. I asked them both if they had a lighter. I got a lighter from one of them, lit my cigar, then sit down at an empty table. As soon as I sit down at the empty table they both get up and walk away. Wow, and you guys worry about your appearance. I must me be an ogre for them to get up and walk away immediately. This was in broad daylight in a fairly crowded area by the way. And they were both smokers as well so it wasn't like they disliked smoking.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Two separate girls moved away when I sat near them
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Igetit!
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Well,it's possible that they were offended by the cigar smoke. Just a hunch.
It was a light cigar and they were both smokers too, so I doubt that was the problem.Igetit! said:Well,it's possible that they were offended by the cigar smoke. Just a hunch.
daygameguy
Master Don Juan
Sometimes if you come across as a player, smoking cigar and doing small talk, girls feel threatened. It's very very subtle. These things happen from time to time.lazikia said:It was a light cigar and they were both smokers too, so I doubt that was the problem.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Igetit!
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I don't think they would leave just because you sat down. There could be a million reasons why they left and all of them having nothing to do with you.
Maybe they had to be somewhere and had only planned on sitting there for a few minutes. Who knows. Since you don't know the real reason, there's no since in making one up and making yourself feel bad.
Maybe they had to be somewhere and had only planned on sitting there for a few minutes. Who knows. Since you don't know the real reason, there's no since in making one up and making yourself feel bad.
Prodigy746
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You are thinking way to much about it, they probobly had to leave, people dont spend too much time and coffee places. If you start thinking about it youll notice someone always leaving when you sit near them because people just have to leave do other things lolz.
yea would have to agree with prodigy, you shouldn't be bothered from small things like that. It happens all the time. trying thinking less and worrying less. Yea there could be a small chance that these women moved because of you, but then again the chances are slim, and even if they did, wow, big deal, two snobby bi5ches! Quite common everywhere really
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.