So I was outside a Starbucks the other day and I went to sit at one of the tables outside and smoke a cigar. There were two separate girls who didn't know each other at separate tables. I asked them both if they had a lighter. I got a lighter from one of them, lit my cigar, then sit down at an empty table. As soon as I sit down at the empty table they both get up and walk away. Wow, and you guys worry about your appearance. I must me be an ogre for them to get up and walk away immediately. This was in broad daylight in a fairly crowded area by the way. And they were both smokers as well so it wasn't like they disliked smoking.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Two separate girls moved away when I sat near them
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Igetit!
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Well,it's possible that they were offended by the cigar smoke. Just a hunch.
It was a light cigar and they were both smokers too, so I doubt that was the problem.Igetit! said:Well,it's possible that they were offended by the cigar smoke. Just a hunch.
daygameguy
Master Don Juan
Sometimes if you come across as a player, smoking cigar and doing small talk, girls feel threatened. It's very very subtle. These things happen from time to time.lazikia said:It was a light cigar and they were both smokers too, so I doubt that was the problem.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Igetit!
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I don't think they would leave just because you sat down. There could be a million reasons why they left and all of them having nothing to do with you.
Maybe they had to be somewhere and had only planned on sitting there for a few minutes. Who knows. Since you don't know the real reason, there's no since in making one up and making yourself feel bad.
Maybe they had to be somewhere and had only planned on sitting there for a few minutes. Who knows. Since you don't know the real reason, there's no since in making one up and making yourself feel bad.
Prodigy746
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You are thinking way to much about it, they probobly had to leave, people dont spend too much time and coffee places. If you start thinking about it youll notice someone always leaving when you sit near them because people just have to leave do other things lolz.
yea would have to agree with prodigy, you shouldn't be bothered from small things like that. It happens all the time. trying thinking less and worrying less. Yea there could be a small chance that these women moved because of you, but then again the chances are slim, and even if they did, wow, big deal, two snobby bi5ches! Quite common everywhere really
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.