So I was outside a Starbucks the other day and I went to sit at one of the tables outside and smoke a cigar. There were two separate girls who didn't know each other at separate tables. I asked them both if they had a lighter. I got a lighter from one of them, lit my cigar, then sit down at an empty table. As soon as I sit down at the empty table they both get up and walk away. Wow, and you guys worry about your appearance. I must me be an ogre for them to get up and walk away immediately. This was in broad daylight in a fairly crowded area by the way. And they were both smokers as well so it wasn't like they disliked smoking.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Two separate girls moved away when I sat near them
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Igetit!
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Well,it's possible that they were offended by the cigar smoke. Just a hunch.
It was a light cigar and they were both smokers too, so I doubt that was the problem.Igetit! said:Well,it's possible that they were offended by the cigar smoke. Just a hunch.
daygameguy
Master Don Juan
Sometimes if you come across as a player, smoking cigar and doing small talk, girls feel threatened. It's very very subtle. These things happen from time to time.lazikia said:It was a light cigar and they were both smokers too, so I doubt that was the problem.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Igetit!
Moderator
I don't think they would leave just because you sat down. There could be a million reasons why they left and all of them having nothing to do with you.
Maybe they had to be somewhere and had only planned on sitting there for a few minutes. Who knows. Since you don't know the real reason, there's no since in making one up and making yourself feel bad.
Maybe they had to be somewhere and had only planned on sitting there for a few minutes. Who knows. Since you don't know the real reason, there's no since in making one up and making yourself feel bad.
Prodigy746
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You are thinking way to much about it, they probobly had to leave, people dont spend too much time and coffee places. If you start thinking about it youll notice someone always leaving when you sit near them because people just have to leave do other things lolz.
yea would have to agree with prodigy, you shouldn't be bothered from small things like that. It happens all the time. trying thinking less and worrying less. Yea there could be a small chance that these women moved because of you, but then again the chances are slim, and even if they did, wow, big deal, two snobby bi5ches! Quite common everywhere really
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.