So I was outside a Starbucks the other day and I went to sit at one of the tables outside and smoke a cigar. There were two separate girls who didn't know each other at separate tables. I asked them both if they had a lighter. I got a lighter from one of them, lit my cigar, then sit down at an empty table. As soon as I sit down at the empty table they both get up and walk away. Wow, and you guys worry about your appearance. I must me be an ogre for them to get up and walk away immediately. This was in broad daylight in a fairly crowded area by the way. And they were both smokers as well so it wasn't like they disliked smoking.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Two separate girls moved away when I sat near them
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Igetit!
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Well,it's possible that they were offended by the cigar smoke. Just a hunch.
It was a light cigar and they were both smokers too, so I doubt that was the problem.Igetit! said:Well,it's possible that they were offended by the cigar smoke. Just a hunch.
daygameguy
Master Don Juan
Sometimes if you come across as a player, smoking cigar and doing small talk, girls feel threatened. It's very very subtle. These things happen from time to time.lazikia said:It was a light cigar and they were both smokers too, so I doubt that was the problem.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Igetit!
Moderator
I don't think they would leave just because you sat down. There could be a million reasons why they left and all of them having nothing to do with you.
Maybe they had to be somewhere and had only planned on sitting there for a few minutes. Who knows. Since you don't know the real reason, there's no since in making one up and making yourself feel bad.
Maybe they had to be somewhere and had only planned on sitting there for a few minutes. Who knows. Since you don't know the real reason, there's no since in making one up and making yourself feel bad.
Prodigy746
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You are thinking way to much about it, they probobly had to leave, people dont spend too much time and coffee places. If you start thinking about it youll notice someone always leaving when you sit near them because people just have to leave do other things lolz.
yea would have to agree with prodigy, you shouldn't be bothered from small things like that. It happens all the time. trying thinking less and worrying less. Yea there could be a small chance that these women moved because of you, but then again the chances are slim, and even if they did, wow, big deal, two snobby bi5ches! Quite common everywhere really
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.