She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
But she probably doesn't want to fvuck a "bi" guy, she wants to fvck a hetero man; if she is interested in you, it is as a girlfriend; she looks at you as a gay guy, not a bi guy or as someone she wants to sleep with. You confirmed it by being so passive. She wants to take you shopping with her and hang out like a girlfriend.scottfall said:
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
What do you want from this woman and would you have that want if you didn't know what she had said about you?scottfall said:
Ive wanted to be with her since I met her six years ago. There where just alot of things in the way, didnt know her that well, 100lbs heavier, low confidence, no idea on how things work. I would like to be involved with her in the same capacity any straight guy would want to. Me being bi has nothing to do with the feelings I have for her on my end.Francisco d'Anconia said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Alright, no big deal. What I said previously still stands although I'm still curious about why you felt telling her that you were bi was going to be much more beneficial to her. Yeah, it opens the door a little but in her mind there can still be more than one person behind it.scottfall said:
scottfall said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Nope. Left a message for her around 12. "Was thinking of going to see Juno this weekend, thought you may want to go with me. Let me know whats up"... well see. Like I said, took her 2 days to call me back the last time. I see her at work tomorrow.My Name is Nobody said:
scottfall said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
scottfall said:Yea. Im using that expereicne for what I DONT want to happen.If she blows me off, ill just move on. If things progress ill do my best to keep work work and outside of work outside of work.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.