You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
But she probably doesn't want to fvuck a "bi" guy, she wants to fvck a hetero man; if she is interested in you, it is as a girlfriend; she looks at you as a gay guy, not a bi guy or as someone she wants to sleep with. You confirmed it by being so passive. She wants to take you shopping with her and hang out like a girlfriend.scottfall said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
What do you want from this woman and would you have that want if you didn't know what she had said about you?scottfall said:
Ive wanted to be with her since I met her six years ago. There where just alot of things in the way, didnt know her that well, 100lbs heavier, low confidence, no idea on how things work. I would like to be involved with her in the same capacity any straight guy would want to. Me being bi has nothing to do with the feelings I have for her on my end.Francisco d'Anconia said:
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Alright, no big deal. What I said previously still stands although I'm still curious about why you felt telling her that you were bi was going to be much more beneficial to her. Yeah, it opens the door a little but in her mind there can still be more than one person behind it.scottfall said:
scottfall said:
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Nope. Left a message for her around 12. "Was thinking of going to see Juno this weekend, thought you may want to go with me. Let me know whats up"... well see. Like I said, took her 2 days to call me back the last time. I see her at work tomorrow.My Name is Nobody said:
scottfall said:
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
scottfall said:Yea. Im using that expereicne for what I DONT want to happen.If she blows me off, ill just move on. If things progress ill do my best to keep work work and outside of work outside of work.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.