"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Twinges of Shame
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
But it is a noble thing to take the red pill and un-learn what our feminized society shoved down our throats through shaming and coming out as a man on the other side.
VladPatton
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Purefilth
Master Don Juan
FVVVVVVVVCKING D!CKHEAAAAAD.
^^thats how i normally think of myself when I have these memories
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Fly By Night
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You know what's annoying though? When you try to tell them the real truth about dating women and what REALLY works and they agree half-assedly, but still cling on to their afc tendencies and DO THE SAME SH!T. Many afcs try to get women, but the real problem is that they never learn from it or they never try to alter their game. They just go like "Oh, she just wasn't the girl of my dreams then. I'll just do the same exact thing with this new girl, maybe she will be different!" *with Disney hopeful eyes*Meast1525 said:
sylvester the cat
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that's because it's not just a matter of 'telling' someone and them seeing the light.Fly By Night said:
it's a matter of actually changing your perception. the way you see things. taking dj's advice here to go NC has really changed my perception. and it has given me a lot of self-confidence.
NC and 'nexting' rules.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Its always better to just not even try. I go into it if people ask me about it but no longer do I volunteer. Too much effort for ingratitude and narrow mindedness.
Like looking at a girl's ass in her own house after I hadn't seen her for about 8 years. She's the first girl that ever kissed me on the cheek, back when I was in primary school. After all that time I meet her again and immediately make the impression I'm a pervert. I'm pretty ashamed of that.
Also I got some HUGE IOI's from some HB8's, possibly HB9 to some, and I didn't act on them. I feel like the hugest dweeb ever when I think about those girls. I still have their numbers but it's almost been a year ago that I did those fvckups. I wonder if I should just give me a: "who are you?" text, and see where it goes. Need to find some more plates TBH.