You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You know what's annoying though? When you try to tell them the real truth about dating women and what REALLY works and they agree half-assedly, but still cling on to their afc tendencies and DO THE SAME SH!T. Many afcs try to get women, but the real problem is that they never learn from it or they never try to alter their game. They just go like "Oh, she just wasn't the girl of my dreams then. I'll just do the same exact thing with this new girl, maybe she will be different!" *with Disney hopeful eyes*Meast1525 said:Ya I tend to cringe too, but honestly it hurts worse to see people you are close to go through be AFC sh1t and then realizing there is nothing you can do to help them. It's a life process everyone has to go through. I am able to see sh1t coming from a mile away, but they just don't listen.
that's because it's not just a matter of 'telling' someone and them seeing the light.Fly By Night said:You know what's annoying though? When you try to tell them the real truth about dating women and what REALLY works and they agree half-assedly, but still cling on to their afc tendencies and DO THE SAME SH!T. Many afcs try to get women, but the real problem is that they never learn from it or they never try to alter their game. They just go like "Oh, she just wasn't the girl of my dreams then. I'll just do the same exact thing with this new girl, maybe she will be different!" *with Disney hopeful eyes*
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.