iqqi
Master Don Juan
Ha, good one, the both of ya's.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Senor Fingers, some of your posts are legend, and will be a part of sosuave history.Señor Fingers said:@My potential banning
It's in your hands folks, I wont stay if I am not wanted.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I have sat and watched this too. I can't say I am surprised.Señor Fingers said:I am asking for forgiveness here so that I can be a credit to this community again, some of you are very forgiving (LOL at the "queer eye" comment) yet others of you feel compelled to spit in my face and kick me while I'm down.
I'm not going to invalidate your feelings. I'm sure you have your reasons for being so upset and jumping to conclusions. You may not grant me pardon, but I forgive you despite your hatred.
I actually try to avoid those. (Flame wars). It got pretty bad here a few months ago, and at one point I was really really upset, but I sat back, went and read some history. I read what they did to Wyldfire, and how she just wouldn't back down, even when it wasn't even worth it to fight.Gaucho said:One more question for IQQI, since the days I used to post here a lot (also under another screen name), I always wondered WTF were you even doing here? I had a lot of respect for Wyldfire, who gave good advice and actually cared to argue against all the nobs and newbs here who are simply 15-18 year olds with loud mouths, but what do you post about? I only see you in flame wars, not sure if you enjoy the drama or what?
Fingz wtf man...Señor Fingers said:I am asking for forgiveness here so that I can be a credit to this community again, some of you are very forgiving (LOL at the "queer eye" comment) yet others of you feel compelled to spit in my face and kick me while I'm down.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Ok well here's what I'm wondering:Mr.Positive said:We do not wish to see you banned, however, some of us are wondering if, in fact, you are Iqqi!
Probably my favourite quote. I bring this up when something really bad happens, and I'm sure most people that know me well would gave heard me telling it to them at one time.An old man and his son worked a small farm, with only one horse to pull the plow. One day the horse ran away.
"How terrible," sympathized the neighbors. "What bad luck!"
"Who knows whether it is bad or good luck" replied the farmer.
A week later, the horse returned from the mountains, leading five wild mares into the barn.
"What wonderful luck!" said the neighbors.
"Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?" answered the old man.
The next day the son, trying to tame one of the horses, fell and broke his leg.
"How horrible. What bad luck!"
"Bad luck? Good luck?"
The army came to all the farms to take young men for war, but the farmer's son was of no use to them, so he was spared.
"Good? Bad?"
This often comes up when I'm bored or pondering and I think about this. I forgot it was from Finz.Instead of seeing a fragrant eucalyptus tree we have never seen before and admiring it's unique fractal patterns, our minds chime in with "Oh, It's a tree" and destroys the magic of the experience.
Potbelly, sometimes my humor gets the best of me...I apologize if it was misinterpreted.Potbelly said:Ok well here's what I'm wondering:
Do you have a fvcking life? I don't think you do amn...you care so damn much about this forum and people on the forum who could have 10000 screennames.
WHO IN THEIR RIGHT MIND WOULD GIVE A SH1TTTT??????
I am blown out of my mind by this obsessive bullsh1t.... When was the last time you saw the sun man???\
Fingz is right...rep is everything... People didn't treat Crotch Sniffer too seriously, even when he posted great advice, and when Fingz posts people flock to him. Naturally. But seriously, take the face off the advice given here and judge its validity for yourself, not based on some screenname.
alright i'm gonna go do something productive now. peace all (or maybe I'm going to log off and sign on again on one of my approximately 10591 other SNs....WHO KNOWS??? think about it...obsess over it...I hope you do.)
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.