iqqi
Master Don Juan
Ha, good one, the both of ya's.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Senor Fingers, some of your posts are legend, and will be a part of sosuave history.Señor Fingers said:@My potential banning
It's in your hands folks, I wont stay if I am not wanted.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I have sat and watched this too. I can't say I am surprised.Señor Fingers said:I am asking for forgiveness here so that I can be a credit to this community again, some of you are very forgiving (LOL at the "queer eye" comment) yet others of you feel compelled to spit in my face and kick me while I'm down.
I'm not going to invalidate your feelings. I'm sure you have your reasons for being so upset and jumping to conclusions. You may not grant me pardon, but I forgive you despite your hatred.
I actually try to avoid those. (Flame wars). It got pretty bad here a few months ago, and at one point I was really really upset, but I sat back, went and read some history. I read what they did to Wyldfire, and how she just wouldn't back down, even when it wasn't even worth it to fight.Gaucho said:One more question for IQQI, since the days I used to post here a lot (also under another screen name), I always wondered WTF were you even doing here? I had a lot of respect for Wyldfire, who gave good advice and actually cared to argue against all the nobs and newbs here who are simply 15-18 year olds with loud mouths, but what do you post about? I only see you in flame wars, not sure if you enjoy the drama or what?
Fingz wtf man...Señor Fingers said:I am asking for forgiveness here so that I can be a credit to this community again, some of you are very forgiving (LOL at the "queer eye" comment) yet others of you feel compelled to spit in my face and kick me while I'm down.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Ok well here's what I'm wondering:Mr.Positive said:We do not wish to see you banned, however, some of us are wondering if, in fact, you are Iqqi!
Probably my favourite quote. I bring this up when something really bad happens, and I'm sure most people that know me well would gave heard me telling it to them at one time.An old man and his son worked a small farm, with only one horse to pull the plow. One day the horse ran away.
"How terrible," sympathized the neighbors. "What bad luck!"
"Who knows whether it is bad or good luck" replied the farmer.
A week later, the horse returned from the mountains, leading five wild mares into the barn.
"What wonderful luck!" said the neighbors.
"Good luck? Bad luck? Who knows?" answered the old man.
The next day the son, trying to tame one of the horses, fell and broke his leg.
"How horrible. What bad luck!"
"Bad luck? Good luck?"
The army came to all the farms to take young men for war, but the farmer's son was of no use to them, so he was spared.
"Good? Bad?"
This often comes up when I'm bored or pondering and I think about this. I forgot it was from Finz.Instead of seeing a fragrant eucalyptus tree we have never seen before and admiring it's unique fractal patterns, our minds chime in with "Oh, It's a tree" and destroys the magic of the experience.
Potbelly, sometimes my humor gets the best of me...I apologize if it was misinterpreted.Potbelly said:Ok well here's what I'm wondering:
Do you have a fvcking life? I don't think you do amn...you care so damn much about this forum and people on the forum who could have 10000 screennames.
WHO IN THEIR RIGHT MIND WOULD GIVE A SH1TTTT??????
I am blown out of my mind by this obsessive bullsh1t.... When was the last time you saw the sun man???\
Fingz is right...rep is everything... People didn't treat Crotch Sniffer too seriously, even when he posted great advice, and when Fingz posts people flock to him. Naturally. But seriously, take the face off the advice given here and judge its validity for yourself, not based on some screenname.
alright i'm gonna go do something productive now. peace all (or maybe I'm going to log off and sign on again on one of my approximately 10591 other SNs....WHO KNOWS??? think about it...obsess over it...I hope you do.)
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.