"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Turning a FWB into a GF
- Thread starter Crissco
- Start date
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
LOL Thought about it, been whoring around for a while now. Want to settle down for a bit.Voice said:
Thats what i thought. She was in FL and was texting me all the time. We hung out tonight. I want to hang out a bit more to build more attraction so we can get more used to eachother
Scars
Master Don Juan
If you keep doing what you're doing now, she may hit a point where she grows strong feelings for you. This is usually how FWB scenarios end, one person gets too attached and it ruins everything. Looks like you beat her to it though, so she'll probably sense it now and start to withdraw her attention from you.
You should learn to control your emotions quickly and remain detached before you're left without a GF AND a FB.
-Scars
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Settling down comes naturally. You can't just force it.Crissco said:
But really, like the other guys said....why? You have a good thing...don't complicate it.
Anyways...
Cool. So she likes you.
So, let's see, you hang out 1+ times per week, you bang, she texts you all the time. Why do you need to have a label on this?
If you really like her, just keep doing what you're doing. She'll eventually ask you "What are we" or some other crap, and you'll have your precious "relationship" title.
You can't MAKE her your girlfriend. That's the important thing to know. Girls need to feel like they've won you. Not that you're winning them. So, keep treating her alright, and let her "win" you. Don't bring up relationship titles....that'll ruin it. Let the girl do that.
You need 3 things.
1. Her treating you like her man: looking out for you, caring for you, wanting to see you, giving you the affection and love, being the special girl in your life.
2. You treating her like your girl: looking out for her, taking care of it when she has a problem, being the man in her life.
3. Her not screwing around with other guys.
If these 3 conditions are being met, then it doesnt matter what you label it. If you have something special with this girl then it depends on these 3 conditions. It isnt that special something if she is a cold ***** with 50-50 interest in you, or if she has a habit of going to the club and kissing guys.
It is 3 conditions and not 4, we dont mention you being faithful to her because we are men. What you do behind closed doors is your business only, until she demands it otherwise, at which point it becomes her business also.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
What Ease said.Ease said:
If she's treating you the way you want to be treated, then a label won't matter.
And if she were the type to cheat/lie/steal, then the label won't matter either.
It all comes down to how you treat each other. Not what you call it.
TheAsianLoverReturns
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You should be thinking how do I add 2 more FWB.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
I already have 3 FWB and 2 more potentials bro.TheAsianLoverReturns said:
She sometimes treats me the way I want to be treated, sometimes no. Its not her, its my own insecurity's on this part. Shes a big push/pull
er though, likes to play games, but I can see through it all and play it right back.
Im thinking of switching things up, going out more often, having fun overall instead of staying inside and fooling around every time.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
TheAsianLoverReturns
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I doubt that, if that was the case, you wouldn't be dreaming about how to turn your f*ck buddy into a girlfriend.Crissco said:
You're the woman in the relationship.
What I learnt, and what I've known all along in fact is that the woman has to make that decision. You just keep enjoying the sex and keep your emotions and attachment in check.
I wrote more about this subject here...
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=180108
Crissco
Master Don Juan
You have always been honest and big help, wanted to say thanks.Jariel said:
I wanted to plan something for tomorrow, on Friday to actually go out, she kept saying IDK yet. So I told her, if you dont know im going to make other plans.
Her actions of texting me, wanting me def speak louder, but shouldn't she want to hang out more often?
I think it comes down to her not wanting to get to attached because of trust issues. I think my best bet is to cut contact for a bit and have her miss what she had.
She just responded with: K
Not pissed but a bit disappointing
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Instead make plans for Monday and break it a few hours before it... It's hard to do but trust me it works like a charm to make her less secure and more interested...