"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Turning a FWB into a GF
- Thread starter Crissco
- Start date
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
LOL Thought about it, been whoring around for a while now. Want to settle down for a bit.Voice said:
Thats what i thought. She was in FL and was texting me all the time. We hung out tonight. I want to hang out a bit more to build more attraction so we can get more used to eachother
Scars
Master Don Juan
If you keep doing what you're doing now, she may hit a point where she grows strong feelings for you. This is usually how FWB scenarios end, one person gets too attached and it ruins everything. Looks like you beat her to it though, so she'll probably sense it now and start to withdraw her attention from you.
You should learn to control your emotions quickly and remain detached before you're left without a GF AND a FB.
-Scars
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Settling down comes naturally. You can't just force it.Crissco said:
But really, like the other guys said....why? You have a good thing...don't complicate it.
Anyways...
Cool. So she likes you.
So, let's see, you hang out 1+ times per week, you bang, she texts you all the time. Why do you need to have a label on this?
If you really like her, just keep doing what you're doing. She'll eventually ask you "What are we" or some other crap, and you'll have your precious "relationship" title.
You can't MAKE her your girlfriend. That's the important thing to know. Girls need to feel like they've won you. Not that you're winning them. So, keep treating her alright, and let her "win" you. Don't bring up relationship titles....that'll ruin it. Let the girl do that.
You need 3 things.
1. Her treating you like her man: looking out for you, caring for you, wanting to see you, giving you the affection and love, being the special girl in your life.
2. You treating her like your girl: looking out for her, taking care of it when she has a problem, being the man in her life.
3. Her not screwing around with other guys.
If these 3 conditions are being met, then it doesnt matter what you label it. If you have something special with this girl then it depends on these 3 conditions. It isnt that special something if she is a cold ***** with 50-50 interest in you, or if she has a habit of going to the club and kissing guys.
It is 3 conditions and not 4, we dont mention you being faithful to her because we are men. What you do behind closed doors is your business only, until she demands it otherwise, at which point it becomes her business also.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
What Ease said.Ease said:
If she's treating you the way you want to be treated, then a label won't matter.
And if she were the type to cheat/lie/steal, then the label won't matter either.
It all comes down to how you treat each other. Not what you call it.
TheAsianLoverReturns
Senior Don Juan
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You should be thinking how do I add 2 more FWB.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
I already have 3 FWB and 2 more potentials bro.TheAsianLoverReturns said:
She sometimes treats me the way I want to be treated, sometimes no. Its not her, its my own insecurity's on this part. Shes a big push/pull
er though, likes to play games, but I can see through it all and play it right back.
Im thinking of switching things up, going out more often, having fun overall instead of staying inside and fooling around every time.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
TheAsianLoverReturns
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Aug 21, 2010
- Messages
- 267
- Reaction score
- 8
I doubt that, if that was the case, you wouldn't be dreaming about how to turn your f*ck buddy into a girlfriend.Crissco said:
You're the woman in the relationship.
What I learnt, and what I've known all along in fact is that the woman has to make that decision. You just keep enjoying the sex and keep your emotions and attachment in check.
I wrote more about this subject here...
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=180108
Crissco
Master Don Juan
You have always been honest and big help, wanted to say thanks.Jariel said:
I wanted to plan something for tomorrow, on Friday to actually go out, she kept saying IDK yet. So I told her, if you dont know im going to make other plans.
Her actions of texting me, wanting me def speak louder, but shouldn't she want to hang out more often?
I think it comes down to her not wanting to get to attached because of trust issues. I think my best bet is to cut contact for a bit and have her miss what she had.
She just responded with: K
Not pissed but a bit disappointing
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Instead make plans for Monday and break it a few hours before it... It's hard to do but trust me it works like a charm to make her less secure and more interested...