"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Turn offs
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
frivolousz21
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sharpshooter
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il_duce
Master Don Juan
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Originally posted by il_duce
Cankles
Definately a turn off for me too.
SIXPAKGQ
Don Juan
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
jakeyboy
Master Don Juan
1. women who go to bars/clubs and think virtually every guy there is a chump who is not good enough for her.... as if she's automatically above the guys there
2. it's been covered many times before here, I know, but... women who ask for drinks... just don't do it! Any woman who asks you to buy her a drink is more interested in the drink than she is in you!
3. too many piercings or tattoos... maybe this is an age/generational thing(?)
-Women who depend solely on the outside beauty, you know, the type who never says a word and just smiles and thinks she's better than you.
-Stupidity (Jessica Simpson)
-Eyes focus on the ground and doesn't make eye-contact with anyone.
-Bad breath
-Neglected feet
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
MrCode
Senior Don Juan
Abbott
Master Don Juan
What's that? I'm not familiar.Originally posted by il_duce
Cankles
Is it new-age slang?
Turn offs to me:
1) Women who aren't my race (I'm not racist that's just how I am).
2) Women who get sloppy drunk very often (drinking is OK, just don't get sloppy drunk).
3) Extremely prude/ goody-two-shoes women (generally, those who think drinking, partying, sex before marriage, other drugs, or even tobacco or staying up late are bad and evil things).
4) Women who cuss every other word, or so it seems (everyone cusses, but it's very possible to cuss too much)
5) Extremely religious and devout women.
6) Women who aren't at least an "8" in looks (I know looks aren't everything but I have to be physically attracted to her).
7) "Goth," (what does "goth" mean anyway??) or "alternative"-type women.
8) Women who tell people things like "Eww...you smoke," or "you drink so therefore you're evil." I realize that I just repeated myself (see #3) but I felt like saying it again in a different way.
9) Women who don't have at least one car/motorcycle/some type of motorized transport.
10) Women who want a sugar daddy (I'm not exactly one now, but it might happen later).
11) Women who don't use make-up, do their nails, or even do their hair. There's not much excuse to not try to look your best, I don't think.
Ben
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Personality: Attention-seeking, manipulative, moody, that "dead" look, belching, smoking, and the ones who try to kill you
buckwheat18
Don Juan
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.