"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Turn offs
- Thread starter GaryNas
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
frivolousz21
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sharpshooter
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il_duce
Master Don Juan
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Originally posted by il_duce
Cankles
Definately a turn off for me too.
SIXPAKGQ
Don Juan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
jakeyboy
Master Don Juan
1. women who go to bars/clubs and think virtually every guy there is a chump who is not good enough for her.... as if she's automatically above the guys there
2. it's been covered many times before here, I know, but... women who ask for drinks... just don't do it! Any woman who asks you to buy her a drink is more interested in the drink than she is in you!
3. too many piercings or tattoos... maybe this is an age/generational thing(?)
-Women who depend solely on the outside beauty, you know, the type who never says a word and just smiles and thinks she's better than you.
-Stupidity (Jessica Simpson)
-Eyes focus on the ground and doesn't make eye-contact with anyone.
-Bad breath
-Neglected feet
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
MrCode
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Abbott
Master Don Juan
What's that? I'm not familiar.Originally posted by il_duce
Cankles
Is it new-age slang?
Turn offs to me:
1) Women who aren't my race (I'm not racist that's just how I am).
2) Women who get sloppy drunk very often (drinking is OK, just don't get sloppy drunk).
3) Extremely prude/ goody-two-shoes women (generally, those who think drinking, partying, sex before marriage, other drugs, or even tobacco or staying up late are bad and evil things).
4) Women who cuss every other word, or so it seems (everyone cusses, but it's very possible to cuss too much)
5) Extremely religious and devout women.
6) Women who aren't at least an "8" in looks (I know looks aren't everything but I have to be physically attracted to her).
7) "Goth," (what does "goth" mean anyway??) or "alternative"-type women.
8) Women who tell people things like "Eww...you smoke," or "you drink so therefore you're evil." I realize that I just repeated myself (see #3) but I felt like saying it again in a different way.
9) Women who don't have at least one car/motorcycle/some type of motorized transport.
10) Women who want a sugar daddy (I'm not exactly one now, but it might happen later).
11) Women who don't use make-up, do their nails, or even do their hair. There's not much excuse to not try to look your best, I don't think.
Ben
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Personality: Attention-seeking, manipulative, moody, that "dead" look, belching, smoking, and the ones who try to kill you
buckwheat18
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.