"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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trying too hard?

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Is it true when you constantly go searching for "love" or for "someone" it never comes to you? i feel like the more i try the less results im getting...

I have a HB8 who i really like and she likes me, we've never met but we text alot but i am always initiating contact with her.....we talk about how much we like each other and sextext alot but when ever i arrange to meet up i dont know if shes just shy or nervous but she never gets back to me?
i dont know what to do? im always initiating contact every 2 days and if i dont contact her i wont hear from her in ages....

What should i do?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Stop contacting her she is wasting your time. Just using you for the attention you give her. If and when she contacts you, politely tell her if she doesnt want to meet you in person, then no more texting.
 

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ink_wizard said:
Is it true when you constantly go searching for "love" or for "someone" it never comes to you? i feel like the more i try the less results im getting...

I have a HB8 who i really like and she likes me, we've never met but we text alot but i am always initiating contact with her.....we talk about how much we like each other and sextext alot but when ever i arrange to meet up i dont know if shes just shy or nervous but she never gets back to me?
i dont know what to do? im always initiating contact every 2 days and if i dont contact her i wont hear from her in ages....

What should i do?

Seriously? When are you guys going to learn?

is she genuinely interested? or just using me for ego boost?
How can a person be genuinely interested if you've never met?

Excuse my bluntness, but I'm losing my patience for these types of situations
 

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This has got to be a joke?!
You're asking for advice on a forum about a girl you've never met?!
Has it actually come to this?!
Man the f*ck up, go meet some girls in real life and stop wasting your time with Internet girls.
Unbelievable
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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This has got to be a joke?!
You're asking for advice on a forum about a girl you've never met?!
Has it actually come to this?!
Man the f*ck up, go meet some girls in real life and stop wasting your time with Internet girls.
Unbelievable
 

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cola said:
Stop contacting her she is wasting your time. Just using you for the attention you give her. If and when she contacts you, politely tell her if she doesnt want to meet you in person, then no more texting.
I agree completely.

I've been in this situation many times before. Turns out they were just using me for attention whenever their husbands, boyfriends or some other guy wasn't showing them enough. I had a lot of phone/text sex and they'd promise we'd get together and fvck, but there was always some last minute excuse and they'd flake out.
 

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but i really do want to date this chick/sleep with her but im unsure on how to escalate this further....considering im always the 1 that has to text first and initiate meeting to which we havent done yet...

i dont want to lose her but i do feel like its an attention thing with her...
 

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ink_wizard said:
but i really do want to date this chick/sleep with her but im unsure on how to escalate this further....considering im always the 1 that has to text first and initiate meeting to which we havent done yet...

i dont want to lose her but i do feel like its an attention thing with her...
Lose her? You never had her.
 

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My thoughts exactly.

hat7069 said:
as a friend/texting buddy, at best.
Has she shown (not said) otherwise??
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I'm beginning to wonder which one of you really desires the attention

She likes sexting you (as do a lot of females once you get them there) because it excites her and she gets off to that. or worse, it makes her so h0rny that she hits up her FWB. You are warming her up for someone else bro. do you want that??

Remember, she has to invest in you - using her time and/or effort and/or money - for her to be worthy of your time.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ink_wizard said:
I have a HB8 who i really like and she likes me, we've never met ...i wont hear from her in ages....What should i do?
AFC of the month!
 

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When you try too hard you think too much.

Even if you're trying to be that attractive male
It must look as if you're not trying, it must look 100% natural, even the slightest bit of thought or awkwardness or non-sincererness and you've lost it, you need to seem completely natural, even if you're thinking like a machine. It must look 100% natural.
 
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