Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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trying too hard?

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Is it true when you constantly go searching for "love" or for "someone" it never comes to you? i feel like the more i try the less results im getting...

I have a HB8 who i really like and she likes me, we've never met but we text alot but i am always initiating contact with her.....we talk about how much we like each other and sextext alot but when ever i arrange to meet up i dont know if shes just shy or nervous but she never gets back to me?
i dont know what to do? im always initiating contact every 2 days and if i dont contact her i wont hear from her in ages....

What should i do?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Stop contacting her she is wasting your time. Just using you for the attention you give her. If and when she contacts you, politely tell her if she doesnt want to meet you in person, then no more texting.
 

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ink_wizard said:
Is it true when you constantly go searching for "love" or for "someone" it never comes to you? i feel like the more i try the less results im getting...

I have a HB8 who i really like and she likes me, we've never met but we text alot but i am always initiating contact with her.....we talk about how much we like each other and sextext alot but when ever i arrange to meet up i dont know if shes just shy or nervous but she never gets back to me?
i dont know what to do? im always initiating contact every 2 days and if i dont contact her i wont hear from her in ages....

What should i do?

Seriously? When are you guys going to learn?

is she genuinely interested? or just using me for ego boost?
How can a person be genuinely interested if you've never met?

Excuse my bluntness, but I'm losing my patience for these types of situations
 

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This has got to be a joke?!
You're asking for advice on a forum about a girl you've never met?!
Has it actually come to this?!
Man the f*ck up, go meet some girls in real life and stop wasting your time with Internet girls.
Unbelievable
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This has got to be a joke?!
You're asking for advice on a forum about a girl you've never met?!
Has it actually come to this?!
Man the f*ck up, go meet some girls in real life and stop wasting your time with Internet girls.
Unbelievable
 

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cola said:
Stop contacting her she is wasting your time. Just using you for the attention you give her. If and when she contacts you, politely tell her if she doesnt want to meet you in person, then no more texting.
I agree completely.

I've been in this situation many times before. Turns out they were just using me for attention whenever their husbands, boyfriends or some other guy wasn't showing them enough. I had a lot of phone/text sex and they'd promise we'd get together and fvck, but there was always some last minute excuse and they'd flake out.
 

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but i really do want to date this chick/sleep with her but im unsure on how to escalate this further....considering im always the 1 that has to text first and initiate meeting to which we havent done yet...

i dont want to lose her but i do feel like its an attention thing with her...
 

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ink_wizard said:
but i really do want to date this chick/sleep with her but im unsure on how to escalate this further....considering im always the 1 that has to text first and initiate meeting to which we havent done yet...

i dont want to lose her but i do feel like its an attention thing with her...
Lose her? You never had her.
 

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My thoughts exactly.

hat7069 said:
as a friend/texting buddy, at best.
Has she shown (not said) otherwise??
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I'm beginning to wonder which one of you really desires the attention

She likes sexting you (as do a lot of females once you get them there) because it excites her and she gets off to that. or worse, it makes her so h0rny that she hits up her FWB. You are warming her up for someone else bro. do you want that??

Remember, she has to invest in you - using her time and/or effort and/or money - for her to be worthy of your time.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ink_wizard said:
I have a HB8 who i really like and she likes me, we've never met ...i wont hear from her in ages....What should i do?
AFC of the month!
 

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When you try too hard you think too much.

Even if you're trying to be that attractive male
It must look as if you're not trying, it must look 100% natural, even the slightest bit of thought or awkwardness or non-sincererness and you've lost it, you need to seem completely natural, even if you're thinking like a machine. It must look 100% natural.
 
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