Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Trying to Secure A Date For The Week Is A Biotch!
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Juan_Man said:I'm on myspace talking with a girl who just got off line and I also have a window opened up for craigslist personals. Still no leads.
There has got to be an easier way.
go out and meet women face to face.
S1NN3R
Master Don Juan
good luck, ask her, she probably wouldn't mind going out and having fun with you.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Thanks. I'll see if I have enough balls by the end of this week.rocky_mtn said:Find something cool like the country fair, rock concert, baseball game, nascar race, wine festival (whatever your thing is or any local cheesy event) and then chat up with her about whatever, then mention that you are going to this event and it would be cool if she could join you. If she says no, then tell her that she is missing out on a great time. Make it sound like you are going either way, so if she joins you or not, it's no big deal. Depending on what you are actually doing, you may or may not be going anyways. Pressure is off because you are inviting her to your fun time, not relying on her to be the fun time. If she says no, don't offer an alternative, wait for later. If she says yes, then there you go.
good luck, ask her, she probably wouldn't mind going out and having fun with you.
S1NN3R
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Why is this so difficult, hard, and confusing?
S1NN3R said:No "end of this week", just do it now. You're helping your chances by getting in before she's made other plans. Ask her the very next time you see her.
Exactly, she won't wait for your time frame, you need to prepare now and then wait for the next time you see her. Don't let it happen, make it happen
If I could meet up with women when my game is on then it wouldn't be as half as hard as it is. But no, you see women at random times and it takes extra effort to work it even when you don't want to. I struggle with this too and am trying to overcome "I dont' want toos"
"you've got to strike when the moment is right without thinking"
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Juan_Man said:Thanks. I'll see if I have enough balls by the end of this week.
Get your balls together right now, then wait til you see her.
Or better yet, go knock on her door and ask her how she is doing then ask her to go, that's balls to wall, :yes:
remember - a real chick next door is 100 times better than an IM online