"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Trying to Secure A Date For The Week Is A Biotch!
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Juan_Man said:I'm on myspace talking with a girl who just got off line and I also have a window opened up for craigslist personals. Still no leads.
There has got to be an easier way.
go out and meet women face to face.
S1NN3R
Master Don Juan
good luck, ask her, she probably wouldn't mind going out and having fun with you.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Thanks. I'll see if I have enough balls by the end of this week.rocky_mtn said:Find something cool like the country fair, rock concert, baseball game, nascar race, wine festival (whatever your thing is or any local cheesy event) and then chat up with her about whatever, then mention that you are going to this event and it would be cool if she could join you. If she says no, then tell her that she is missing out on a great time. Make it sound like you are going either way, so if she joins you or not, it's no big deal. Depending on what you are actually doing, you may or may not be going anyways. Pressure is off because you are inviting her to your fun time, not relying on her to be the fun time. If she says no, don't offer an alternative, wait for later. If she says yes, then there you go.
good luck, ask her, she probably wouldn't mind going out and having fun with you.
S1NN3R
Master Don Juan
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Why is this so difficult, hard, and confusing?
S1NN3R said:No "end of this week", just do it now. You're helping your chances by getting in before she's made other plans. Ask her the very next time you see her.
Exactly, she won't wait for your time frame, you need to prepare now and then wait for the next time you see her. Don't let it happen, make it happen
If I could meet up with women when my game is on then it wouldn't be as half as hard as it is. But no, you see women at random times and it takes extra effort to work it even when you don't want to. I struggle with this too and am trying to overcome "I dont' want toos"
"you've got to strike when the moment is right without thinking"
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Juan_Man said:Thanks. I'll see if I have enough balls by the end of this week.
Get your balls together right now, then wait til you see her.
Or better yet, go knock on her door and ask her how she is doing then ask her to go, that's balls to wall, :yes:
remember - a real chick next door is 100 times better than an IM online