"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Trying to Secure A Date For The Week Is A Biotch!
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Juan_Man said:I'm on myspace talking with a girl who just got off line and I also have a window opened up for craigslist personals. Still no leads.
There has got to be an easier way.
go out and meet women face to face.
S1NN3R
Master Don Juan
good luck, ask her, she probably wouldn't mind going out and having fun with you.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Thanks. I'll see if I have enough balls by the end of this week.rocky_mtn said:Find something cool like the country fair, rock concert, baseball game, nascar race, wine festival (whatever your thing is or any local cheesy event) and then chat up with her about whatever, then mention that you are going to this event and it would be cool if she could join you. If she says no, then tell her that she is missing out on a great time. Make it sound like you are going either way, so if she joins you or not, it's no big deal. Depending on what you are actually doing, you may or may not be going anyways. Pressure is off because you are inviting her to your fun time, not relying on her to be the fun time. If she says no, don't offer an alternative, wait for later. If she says yes, then there you go.
good luck, ask her, she probably wouldn't mind going out and having fun with you.
S1NN3R
Master Don Juan
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Why is this so difficult, hard, and confusing?
S1NN3R said:No "end of this week", just do it now. You're helping your chances by getting in before she's made other plans. Ask her the very next time you see her.
Exactly, she won't wait for your time frame, you need to prepare now and then wait for the next time you see her. Don't let it happen, make it happen
If I could meet up with women when my game is on then it wouldn't be as half as hard as it is. But no, you see women at random times and it takes extra effort to work it even when you don't want to. I struggle with this too and am trying to overcome "I dont' want toos"
"you've got to strike when the moment is right without thinking"
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Juan_Man said:Thanks. I'll see if I have enough balls by the end of this week.
Get your balls together right now, then wait til you see her.
Or better yet, go knock on her door and ask her how she is doing then ask her to go, that's balls to wall, :yes:
remember - a real chick next door is 100 times better than an IM online