"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Trying to Secure A Date For The Week Is A Biotch!
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Juan_Man said:I'm on myspace talking with a girl who just got off line and I also have a window opened up for craigslist personals. Still no leads.
There has got to be an easier way.
go out and meet women face to face.
S1NN3R
Master Don Juan
good luck, ask her, she probably wouldn't mind going out and having fun with you.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Thanks. I'll see if I have enough balls by the end of this week.rocky_mtn said:Find something cool like the country fair, rock concert, baseball game, nascar race, wine festival (whatever your thing is or any local cheesy event) and then chat up with her about whatever, then mention that you are going to this event and it would be cool if she could join you. If she says no, then tell her that she is missing out on a great time. Make it sound like you are going either way, so if she joins you or not, it's no big deal. Depending on what you are actually doing, you may or may not be going anyways. Pressure is off because you are inviting her to your fun time, not relying on her to be the fun time. If she says no, don't offer an alternative, wait for later. If she says yes, then there you go.
good luck, ask her, she probably wouldn't mind going out and having fun with you.
S1NN3R
Master Don Juan
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Why is this so difficult, hard, and confusing?
S1NN3R said:No "end of this week", just do it now. You're helping your chances by getting in before she's made other plans. Ask her the very next time you see her.
Exactly, she won't wait for your time frame, you need to prepare now and then wait for the next time you see her. Don't let it happen, make it happen
If I could meet up with women when my game is on then it wouldn't be as half as hard as it is. But no, you see women at random times and it takes extra effort to work it even when you don't want to. I struggle with this too and am trying to overcome "I dont' want toos"
"you've got to strike when the moment is right without thinking"
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Juan_Man said:Thanks. I'll see if I have enough balls by the end of this week.
Get your balls together right now, then wait til you see her.
Or better yet, go knock on her door and ask her how she is doing then ask her to go, that's balls to wall, :yes:
remember - a real chick next door is 100 times better than an IM online