"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Aesthetix29

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Right I'll be honest .... I'm probably at my worst right now...

- just been made redundant after 14 years (they've stopped trading and haven't gone insolvent, so no redundancy pay yet)
-no plates lined up (been dropped off a few ex's and to be fair im rock bottom, and don't trust them)
- no money
-depressed
-lost a lot a weight (that's bad because I was a lean gym goer)
-just turned 31
-and a ton of other things


Good steps in taking to change my life....

-stopped smoking bud ( as I feel I'm more bubbly and funny without it - I think it makes me boring and suppresses my personality.
-started my own business ... Although things are very slow I am making progress, and I've just had my website built and made my first sale (which felt amazing)
- looking for ways to interact with more women (not just yet but soon, as I'm broke and can't afford to do anything atm) CATCH 22.
-getting tanned
-nice classy clothes once business picks up (again finances)

Thought I'd just share my current situation, and this is the worst I've felt in a long time. Anyone else going though something similar? Any advice would be apprechiated :-/
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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dustmuffin

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Right I'll be honest .... I'm probably at my worst right now...

- just been made redundant after 14 years (they've stopped trading and haven't gone insolvent, so no redundancy pay yet)
-no plates lined up (been dropped off a few ex's and to be fair im rock bottom, and don't trust them)
- no money
-depressed
-lost a lot a weight (that's bad because I was a lean gym goer)
-just turned 31
-and a ton of other things


Good steps in taking to change my life....

-stopped smoking bud ( as I feel I'm more bubbly and funny without it - I think it makes me boring and suppresses my personality.
-started my own business ... Although things are very slow I am making progress, and I've just had my website built and made my first sale (which felt amazing)
- looking for ways to interact with more women (not just yet but soon, as I'm broke and can't afford to do anything atm) CATCH 22.
-getting tanned
-nice classy clothes once business picks up (again finances)

Thought I'd just share my current situation, and this is the worst I've felt in a long time. Anyone else going though something similar? Any advice would be apprechiated :-/
Hell yes...lost job of 22 years due to management shake up. My brother died. Unemployed for two years. Divorced after 22 year marriage. Dumped after year Ltr.

I am a mess. Working on my mental state with counciling and meds. I am trying to get fit. I am better but still a mess. I start couciling monday and i am certain that will be the key.

As far as women and money go you dont have to be wealthy to get laid. I spent 3 bucks on a first date and got laid. I can usually keep my confidence and game gowing for the length of a date. What im working on is 24/7. I can lose it and have a manic episode that is horrible. I have issues but others have it worse. The key is to reconize your short commings and take action to change. That is what i am doing. I hope in 6 months i will be a new man.
 

Aesthetix29

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Hell yes...lost job of 22 years due to management shake up. My brother died. Unemployed for two years. Divorced after 22 year marriage. Dumped after year Ltr.

I am a mess. Working on my mental state with counciling and meds. I am trying to get fit. I am better but still a mess. I start couciling monday and i am certain that will be the key.

As far as women and money go you dont have to be wealthy to get laid. I spent 3 bucks on a first date and got laid. I can usually keep my confidence and game gowing for the length of a date. What im working on is 24/7. I can lose it and have a manic episode that is horrible. I have issues but others have it worse. The key is to reconize your short commings and take action to change. That is what i am doing. I hope in 6 months i will be a new man.
Well it's good to know that I'm not on my own ... This is the worst position I've ever been in ... I'm thinking a fresh start.
 

dustmuffin

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Well it's good to know that I'm not on my own ... This is the worst position I've ever been in ... I'm thinking a fresh start.
That is what I am tying to do. Just get my life and mental state in order. That is what's most important. Women are way down the list. I have a goal of six months to have it together. If it takes longer it takes longer. I just need to keep trying. This is the worst I have been in too. I have been this way since my divorce then everything snowballed. I didn't work on myself. I just coasted. I can't do that any longer as issues are getting worse. My ex gf was a crutch. I will get my mind right. That is the key for me. I also suffer from depression. Good luck my friend. If you need support pm me. Most of the guys on here have been through hell and are very supportive. I talk to a few younger guys on the phone. They just need some encouragement and I am happy to give it.
 

marmel75

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Hell yes...lost job of 22 years due to management shake up. My brother died. Unemployed for two years. Divorced after 22 year marriage. Dumped after year Ltr.

I am a mess. Working on my mental state with counciling and meds. I am trying to get fit. I am better but still a mess. I start couciling monday and i am certain that will be the key.

As far as women and money go you dont have to be wealthy to get laid. I spent 3 bucks on a first date and got laid. I can usually keep my confidence and game gowing for the length of a date. What im working on is 24/7. I can lose it and have a manic episode that is horrible. I have issues but others have it worse. The key is to reconize your short commings and take action to change. That is what i am doing. I hope in 6 months i will be a new man.
Likely also deficient in key minerals like Magnesium and zinc
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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