"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Trying to get my life back on track....

Aesthetix29

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Right I'll be honest .... I'm probably at my worst right now...

- just been made redundant after 14 years (they've stopped trading and haven't gone insolvent, so no redundancy pay yet)
-no plates lined up (been dropped off a few ex's and to be fair im rock bottom, and don't trust them)
- no money
-depressed
-lost a lot a weight (that's bad because I was a lean gym goer)
-just turned 31
-and a ton of other things


Good steps in taking to change my life....

-stopped smoking bud ( as I feel I'm more bubbly and funny without it - I think it makes me boring and suppresses my personality.
-started my own business ... Although things are very slow I am making progress, and I've just had my website built and made my first sale (which felt amazing)
- looking for ways to interact with more women (not just yet but soon, as I'm broke and can't afford to do anything atm) CATCH 22.
-getting tanned
-nice classy clothes once business picks up (again finances)

Thought I'd just share my current situation, and this is the worst I've felt in a long time. Anyone else going though something similar? Any advice would be apprechiated :-/
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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dustmuffin

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Right I'll be honest .... I'm probably at my worst right now...

- just been made redundant after 14 years (they've stopped trading and haven't gone insolvent, so no redundancy pay yet)
-no plates lined up (been dropped off a few ex's and to be fair im rock bottom, and don't trust them)
- no money
-depressed
-lost a lot a weight (that's bad because I was a lean gym goer)
-just turned 31
-and a ton of other things


Good steps in taking to change my life....

-stopped smoking bud ( as I feel I'm more bubbly and funny without it - I think it makes me boring and suppresses my personality.
-started my own business ... Although things are very slow I am making progress, and I've just had my website built and made my first sale (which felt amazing)
- looking for ways to interact with more women (not just yet but soon, as I'm broke and can't afford to do anything atm) CATCH 22.
-getting tanned
-nice classy clothes once business picks up (again finances)

Thought I'd just share my current situation, and this is the worst I've felt in a long time. Anyone else going though something similar? Any advice would be apprechiated :-/
Hell yes...lost job of 22 years due to management shake up. My brother died. Unemployed for two years. Divorced after 22 year marriage. Dumped after year Ltr.

I am a mess. Working on my mental state with counciling and meds. I am trying to get fit. I am better but still a mess. I start couciling monday and i am certain that will be the key.

As far as women and money go you dont have to be wealthy to get laid. I spent 3 bucks on a first date and got laid. I can usually keep my confidence and game gowing for the length of a date. What im working on is 24/7. I can lose it and have a manic episode that is horrible. I have issues but others have it worse. The key is to reconize your short commings and take action to change. That is what i am doing. I hope in 6 months i will be a new man.
 

Aesthetix29

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Hell yes...lost job of 22 years due to management shake up. My brother died. Unemployed for two years. Divorced after 22 year marriage. Dumped after year Ltr.

I am a mess. Working on my mental state with counciling and meds. I am trying to get fit. I am better but still a mess. I start couciling monday and i am certain that will be the key.

As far as women and money go you dont have to be wealthy to get laid. I spent 3 bucks on a first date and got laid. I can usually keep my confidence and game gowing for the length of a date. What im working on is 24/7. I can lose it and have a manic episode that is horrible. I have issues but others have it worse. The key is to reconize your short commings and take action to change. That is what i am doing. I hope in 6 months i will be a new man.
Well it's good to know that I'm not on my own ... This is the worst position I've ever been in ... I'm thinking a fresh start.
 

dustmuffin

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Well it's good to know that I'm not on my own ... This is the worst position I've ever been in ... I'm thinking a fresh start.
That is what I am tying to do. Just get my life and mental state in order. That is what's most important. Women are way down the list. I have a goal of six months to have it together. If it takes longer it takes longer. I just need to keep trying. This is the worst I have been in too. I have been this way since my divorce then everything snowballed. I didn't work on myself. I just coasted. I can't do that any longer as issues are getting worse. My ex gf was a crutch. I will get my mind right. That is the key for me. I also suffer from depression. Good luck my friend. If you need support pm me. Most of the guys on here have been through hell and are very supportive. I talk to a few younger guys on the phone. They just need some encouragement and I am happy to give it.
 

marmel75

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Hell yes...lost job of 22 years due to management shake up. My brother died. Unemployed for two years. Divorced after 22 year marriage. Dumped after year Ltr.

I am a mess. Working on my mental state with counciling and meds. I am trying to get fit. I am better but still a mess. I start couciling monday and i am certain that will be the key.

As far as women and money go you dont have to be wealthy to get laid. I spent 3 bucks on a first date and got laid. I can usually keep my confidence and game gowing for the length of a date. What im working on is 24/7. I can lose it and have a manic episode that is horrible. I have issues but others have it worse. The key is to reconize your short commings and take action to change. That is what i am doing. I hope in 6 months i will be a new man.
Likely also deficient in key minerals like Magnesium and zinc
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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