Troubling new trend: women on dating apps demand dinner dates

[Solomon]

Walk and coffee dates are low effort now according to popular sites like reddit but during covid women were actually not just down for these type of dates but suggesting them.
People have crirstice me a lot but this is why I love dating Wisconsin country girls, they are cool with low-maintenance dates, and tend to be good girls to be in LTRs with.

I know it's reddit but this is how "normies" think, one of the reasons why I think dating is a joke, people expect you to go all out just for you to end up ghosted after LMFAOOO

 

[Bigpapa]

Walk and coffee dates are low effort now according to popular sites like reddit but during covid women were actually not just down for these type of dates but suggesting them.
People have crirstice me a lot but this is why I love dating Wisconsin country girls, they are cool with low-maintenance dates, and tend to be good girls to be in LTRs with.

I know it's reddit but this is how "normies" think, one of the reasons why I think dating is a joke, people expect you to go all out just for you to end up ghosted after LMFAOOO

If she likes you, she will be ok with a low effort date that makes sense like a drink or a coffee. If she is not, then she will start demanding stuff. Simple like that

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Walk and coffee dates are low effort now according to popular sites like reddit but during covid women were actually not just down for these type of dates but suggesting them.
People have crirstice me a lot but this is why I love dating Wisconsin country girls, they are cool with low-maintenance dates, and tend to be good girls to be in LTRs with.

I know it's reddit but this is how "normies" think, one of the reasons why I think dating is a joke, people expect you to go all out just for you to end up ghosted after LMFAOOO

People who listen to what Simps say will end up being a simp.

Any woman who tells you that already is signalling to you that she is not interested but will meet you for a free meal.

Easiest delete you should ever have

 

[CornbreadFed]

Walk and coffee dates are low effort now according to popular sites like reddit but during covid women were actually not just down for these type of dates but suggesting them.
People have crirstice me a lot but this is why I love dating Wisconsin country girls, they are cool with low-maintenance dates, and tend to be good girls to be in LTRs with.

I know it's reddit but this is how "normies" think, one of the reasons why I think dating is a joke, people expect you to go all out just for you to end up ghosted after LMFAOOO

Let’s be real, most single men aren’t great at dating, and I’m guessing many people here have little experience dating other men. Just like women don’t fully understand what the average man goes through, we don’t really know what they’re dealing with either. Sure, you might want to take her seriously but also want to take things slow. The problem is, she’s dealt with plenty of men who wasted her time with the same approach, so you’ve likely set off a major red flag in her mind. It’s similar to you considering a woman who brags about only having guy friends and spending every summer in Jamaica with muscular guys. Would you take that chance due to a potential misjudgment on your part or be like **** no immediately? The only way to by pass the screening process is by separating yourself from the average man at the start. This is why certain men get a pass on their first date and most men don’t.

 

[Bigpapa]

Let’s be real, most single men aren’t great at dating, and I’m guessing many people here have little experience dating other men. Just like women don’t fully understand what the average man goes through, we don’t really know what they’re dealing with either. Sure, you might want to take her seriously but also want to take things slow. The problem is, she’s dealt with plenty of men who wasted her time with the same approach, so you’ve likely set off a major red flag in her mind. It’s similar to you considering a woman who brags about only having guy friends and spending every summer in Jamaica with muscular guys. Would you take that chance due to a potential misjudgment on your part or be like **** no immediately? The only way to by pass the screening process is by separating yourself from the average man at the start. This is why certain men get a pass on their first date and most men don’t.

Again, it is all about how much you like her or she likes you

if you like a girl well enough, then you would be interested to see if she is an exception from the rule or not, especially over a low effort thing for both

same thing with women, if she likes you enough she would be interested to see what you are all about over a coffee or drink

 

[CornbreadFed]

Again, it is all about how much you like her or she likes you

if you like a girl well enough, then you would be interested to see if she is an exception from the rule or not, especially over a low effort thing for both

same thing with women, if she likes you enough she would be interested to see what you are all about over a coffee or drink

Men and women often have different interests and priorities when it comes to dating. Men might be more likely to go on a date with someone based on physical attraction, while women tend to be more selective, often looking for specific qualities (her dream type) or status. If these criteria aren’t met, men need to pass a basic pre-selection process to stand out from others. This isn’t necessarily difficult, but many men lack the emotional and social intelligence needed to navigate this, leading to frustration when they fail. This is why you see overall good-looking or well-off men struggling with women because they lack the emotional & social intelligence to pass the selection process.

 

[Bigpapa]

Men and women often have different interests and priorities when it comes to dating. Men might be more likely to go on a date with someone based on physical attraction, while women tend to be more selective, often looking for specific qualities (her dream type) or status. If these criteria aren’t met, men need to pass a basic pre-selection process to stand out from others. This isn’t necessarily difficult, but many men lack the emotional and social intelligence needed to navigate this, leading to frustration when they fail. This is why you see overall good-looking or well-off men struggling with women because they lack the emotional & social intelligence to pass the selection process.

I agree with this take till a certain point

if she is talkative -> you progress by asking her out

If she is washy washy or demands grand gestures , then for sure it means that is not necessary you problem

if she is not talkative most likely you are not that interesting to her for whatever reason ( it can happen ) or that you have no idea how to talk with women ( can happen too )

but I really doubt that a guy with not good enough social skills can prove his “worth” by doing a grand gesture

 

[CornbreadFed]

but I really doubt that a guy with not good enough social skills can prove his “worth” by doing a grand gesture

If she’s not interested then you should move on. My point is that most men are failing upfront with women because they clearly lack masculine frame, have sloppy presentations, cannot hold a basic conversation, have 0 hobbies outside the internet and gym at best and give out spectrum vibes. If a woman is complaining about a coffee date then more likely you failed her pre-selection process. Otherwise, she would not have cared if you took her to sonic in Timbuktu or not.

 

[Randall Stephens]

This seems to be a growing trend. You'd offer to meet for drinks and they would decline but say that they are open to meeting for dinner instead. I promptly un-match these dinner wh0res but can't help wondering what's behind this seemingly new trend? It certainly wasn't like that even a couple of years ago. Is it because of social media and female "influencers" telling women to "know their worth" and demand free dinners? Has anyone else noticed this?

Maybe they actually want to get to know a guy and see if there's even a connection there? All you think about is sex, huh, what's your fastest route there is, and what your barriers are to procuring it, eh?

 

[Bigpapa]

If she’s not interested then you should move on. My point is that most men are failing upfront with women because they clearly lack masculine frame, have sloppy presentations, can’t hold a basic conversation, have 0 hobbies outside the internet and gym at best and give out spectrum vibes. If a woman is complaining about a coffee date then more likely you failed her pre-selection process. Otherwise, she would not have cared if you took her to sonic in Timbuktu or not.

If you failed pre-selection she would not say anything about the coffee, she will either not say anything, say she is busy, tell you right from the bat that she is not interested

 

[CornbreadFed]

If you failed pre-selection she would not say anything about the coffee, she will either not say anything, say she is busy, tell you right from the bat that she is not interested

Women will never be direct to your face. Has a woman ever openly told you that your coffee date was lame? It seems we tend to hear this more through their feedback later on. The lack of effort just supplements the reasons for why a woman rejected you. I guarantee that if you approached a woman while dressed inappropriately and giving off spectrum Elliot Rodger vibes, she didn't turn you down just because you asked her out for coffee.

 

[Randall Stephens]

It's OVER for SaucelessCels.

"And this SAUCY fellow gives her better than she says!" - Prince John, The Adventures of Robin Hood. "Robin! I LIKE you!"

 

[Bigpapa]

Women will never be direct to your face. Has a woman ever openly told you that your coffee date was lame? It seems we tend to hear this more through their feedback later on. The lack of effort just supplements the reasons for why a woman rejected you. I guarantee that if you approached a woman while dressed inappropriately and giving off spectrum Elliot Rodger vibes, she didn't turn you down just because you asked her out for coffee.

I never was told by a woman that a coffee date is lame

it happened though to not reply anything after asking how her schedule looks like or that she is busy

one thing is to talk about how you are dressed or behave and a totally different thing about refusing you when you tell her to grab a coffee

 

[Solomon]

People who listen to what Simps say will end up being a simp.

Any woman who tells you that already is signalling to you that she is not interested but will meet you for a free meal.

Easiest delete you should ever have

Let me play the opposite advocate.



































You match with this chick below and tell her let's do coffee she says no let's do dinner, you really going to unmatch my guy?

 

[Bigpapa]

Let me play the opposite advocate.



































You match with this chick below and tell her let's do coffee she says no let's do dinner, you really going to unmatch my guy?

If she is above what you usually get you need to brush it off nicely. If she looks that she is not budging you need to decide if you gonna loose the opportunity over a bit of money or not.

If you do not do something you 100% lose, if you do something about it sooner or later you will also be successful

all in all, I do not think is bad to be associated with good looking women around you, if you go to the right places and start building a social circle. Other women will notice you

 

[CornbreadFed]

You match with this chick below and tell her let's do coffee she says no let's do dinner, you really going to unmatch my guy?

Depends on how flexible she is with "dinner". If she wants an expensive place, then definitely not. If it's just to Chili's or something like that, then it's fine.

 

[The Duke]

Let me play the opposite advocate.



































You match with this chick below and tell her let's do coffee she says no let's do dinner, you really going to unmatch my guy?

I'm going to counter her counter with drinks at a rooftop bar and tell her we can get food if I like her. I've done it that way before and about half way thru the date they will ask me if I like them. I always tease them and they eat it up.

 

[Solomon]

Depends on how flexible she is with "dinner". If she wants an expensive place, then definitely not. If it's just to Chili's or something like that, then it's fine.

Chilis WTF? I haven't been to A chilis in over 10 years, that place still open?

I'm going to counter her counter with drinks at a rooftop bar and tell her we can get food if I like her. I've done it that way before and about half way thru the date they will ask me if I like them. I always tease them and they eat it up.

Interesting take, I like the rooftops great ambiance and vibes, especially if you're with a cutie

 

[Vanderdonck]

How is this a new trend? Women have been dining out on male thirst for millennia.

All it takes is 1 out of 10 to say yes. Most fellas here know better.

 

[Bigpapa]

I'm going to counter her counter with drinks at a rooftop bar and tell her we can get food if I like her. I've done it that way before and about half way thru the date they will ask me if I like them. I always tease them and they eat it up.

Good one, for sure will remember this move