Troubling new trend: women on dating apps demand dinner dates

[Bokanovsky]

This seems to be a growing trend. You'd offer to meet for drinks and they would decline but say that they are open to meeting for dinner instead. I promptly un-match these dinner wh0res but can't help wondering what's behind this seemingly new trend? It certainly wasn't like that even a couple of years ago. Is it because of social media and female "influencers" telling women to "know their worth" and demand free dinners? Has anyone else noticed this?

 

[tksniper]

This seems to a growing trend. You'd offer to meet for drinks and they would decline but say that they are open to meeting for dinner instead. I promptly un-match these dinner wh0res but can't help wondering what's behind this seemingly new trend? It certainly wasn't like that even a couple of years ago. Is it because of social media and female "influences" telling women to "know their worth" and demand free dinners? Has anyone else noticed this?

What app are you using? I havent seen that on tinder. Although I do have female friends that on on free dinner dates every week. I suspect it might have more to do with the epidemic of low value desperate men with no game rather than tik tok influencers. One thing I;ve noticed about social media is that it has a way of evening itself out. For every 100 comments about "know your worth", there's 100 more comments calling women out for being gold diggers. The only echo chambers would be private women's groups.

 

[BaronOfHair]

All the more incentive to get off the apps

 

[Bokanovsky]

What app are you using? I havent seen that on tinder. Although I do have female friends that on on free dinner dates every week. I suspect it might have more to do with the epidemic of low value desperate men with no game rather than tik tok influencers. One thing I;ve noticed about social media is that it has a way of evening itself out. For every 100 comments about "know your worth", there's 100 more comments calling women out for being gold diggers. The only echo chambers would be private women's groups.

Hinge, Bumble, Facebook Dating. Tinder is pretty much useless where I live.

 

[Bokanovsky]

All the more incentive to get off the apps

I don't know man. I've dated a lot of hot women I met on dating apps. If I get off the apps, I'll have to become a monk. I'm way too busy with my business/career to "day game" (an extremely inefficient use of time).

 

[Divorced w 3]

I have never had this happen, and would suggest it’s some combination in the population density of your area and your profile itself. Maybe drop us a picture of your profile (pictures face blocked out)?

 

[Divorced w 3]

I don't know man. I've dated a lot of hot men I met on dating apps. If I get off the apps, I'll have to become a monk. I'm way too busy with my business/career to "day game" (an extremely inefficient use of time).

Hot men?

 

[Bokanovsky]

Hot men?

Fixed that.

I considered whether it might have something to do with me being older now (early 40's) or my occupation, but like I said, this wasn't the case even a couple of years ago. Perhaps it's more of a local trend.

EDIT: maybe not so local after all.

From booty call to ‘foodie call’ — free dinner scammers flood dating apps as wallets tighten

Love might be off the menu — but the lobster sure isn’t.

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[Solomon]

One thing I've noticed in my area it goes through ebs and flows. Meaning that you will have some women who will be gladly come to your house to hook up and then 6 months later, you can't even get a girl to come back to your place after a 2nd date having drinks or some activity out in public. Honestly I think it's a combination of 1. The women you going after which leads to 2 Timing- you have some women who may just want to hook up cause it's that time of the month and their frisky, then you have some women who just got out of a relationship where they got played by some bum guy and so now they are overcorrecting.

So I don't think it's a "YOU" thing OP personally I don't do dinner dates anymore waste of my time, why da **** would you take a Tinder bop on a dinner date? let's cut the shyt have a drink or two and make it do what it do

 

[Solomon]

I have never had this happen, and would suggest it’s some combination in the population density of your area and your profile itself. Maybe drop us a picture of your profile (pictures face blocked out)?

Yup, Profile could be another thing, OP if you have too many pictures "Lifemaxxing" then women might think you a sucker, you know pictures

• Of your car (if it's fancy)
• you at expensive venues i.e. restaurants, festivals, parties etc
• You traveling etc

I noticed when I had certain pictures or profiles(or certain verbiage like seeking traditional woman for traditional man) I tended to attract these types, then I switched my profile to be a bit more ****y funny and that weeded those types out instantly.

 

[CornbreadFed]

There are places with happy hours that are cheaper than going to bars. Oh wait, every guy on the internet is pulling 9s and 10s at ease without spending a dime on the first date lol.

 

[Bokanovsky]

There are places with happy hours that are cheaper than going to bars. Oh wait, every guy on the internet is pulling 9s and 10s at ease without spending a dime on the first date lol.

The women that demand dinner dates will laugh at your Applebee's happy hour offer.

 

[BadBoy89]

This seems to be a growing trend. You'd offer to meet for drinks and they would decline but say that they are open to meeting for dinner instead. I promptly un-match these dinner wh0res but can't help wondering what's behind this seemingly new trend?

Haven't really noticed it. Last 2 first dates I met them for coffee and they didn't say anything. They were older too.

I think because you are meeting them online they can go for broke. If you met them through a friend or acquaintance, don't think they would say that.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This seems to be a growing trend. You'd offer to meet for drinks and they would decline but say that they are open to meeting for dinner instead. I promptly un-match these dinner wh0res but can't help wondering what's behind this seemingly new trend? It certainly wasn't like that even a couple of years ago. Is it because of social media and female "influencers" telling women to "know their worth" and demand free dinners? Has anyone else noticed this?

Women have been putting out videos saying they are getting advice from their guy "friends" to not accept drink or coffee dates because they aren't willing to "invest" in them and they "deserve more".

Probably some white knights that have been friend zoned that want to make other guys lives difficult as in "If I can't fvck her, I will try to make sure you will have to jump thru as many hoops as possible to fvck her"

 

[Doctor Europeo]

TheFemaleDatingStrategy has been preaching this for a while

 

[BaronOfHair]

I'm way too busy with my business/career to "day game" (an extremely inefficient use of time).

You don't have time to walk through a shopping center during peak business hours?

 

[Tilex]

I can tell you one place this is very common.............Miami, FL
This expectation has been going on for a long time. 20+ years

 

[The Duke]

Any time a chic tries to dictate the terms just close up shop and throw your big cahk at another one and see if she takes the bait. Problem solved.

It's a great way to filter women out that will cause you grief later down the road. Never step into her frame.

 

[CornbreadFed]

The women that demand dinner dates will laugh at your Applebee's happy hour offer.

Never had that happen to me ever. Sounds like a frame issue to me TBH. If Brad Pitt invited a girl to Applebee's happy hour, do you think she would scoff at him and demand Ruth Chris steak house? If a girl is doing this to you then you are probably coming off as weak and desperate right off the bat, and she is just seeing if you are that much of a sucker.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I reckon this is the result of 2 main factors - women getting increasingly more phucked out and alpha widowed over time, coupled with economic uncertainty. They want revenge, they want a free meal, they want a guy who is willing to pay for free meals. But bc they're alpha widowed, he has to be highly desireable.

This is how you end up with this, in the sausage fest SF Bay Area of all places

https://twitter.com/i/web/status/1971680799003901965

Narrator: Do not marry Lisa.