ok i liked this girl in elementary she meant a lot to me. we used to talk all the time in class and everything untill i moved. i moved to RI i had a old year book and i started to look up her on myspace and i found her so we started talking again we were texting and calling each other so one day she was with one of her friends tori and everything went wrong her friend was trying to say that i was a player when i am really not but ok, so i havent talked to hayley in 7 years than i started saying sweet things to her and i really meant them. so her friend tori started making fake stuff up hayley believed her and she started to cry and its not like i lied to hayley because i meant everything i said to her. so now she doesnt care anymore and i really do need advise... i mean is it me or is it just girls trying to make it where they feel as though im out of her league or what or trying to get me away from hayley i just dont know what to do?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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That is the longest sentence i have read on this forum.
Based on your writing skills i assume you are young so i wouldnt worry too much about one girl. You will have plenty of girls that are just as good if not better than Hayle.
Based on your writing skills i assume you are young so i wouldnt worry too much about one girl. You will have plenty of girls that are just as good if not better than Hayle.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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You have no control over what her jealous friend says about you.
You have no control this girl's inability to think for herself instead of being influenced by her friend's BS.
Nothing you can do. Let it go.
You have no control this girl's inability to think for herself instead of being influenced by her friend's BS.
Nothing you can do. Let it go.
Purefilth
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Besides that, lets be honest here - If i translated this correctly you havent seen this girl in SEVEN YEARS.
What makes you say "all these nice things" to her.
She isnt the person you knew in elementary school (at least i would fvcking hope not!) you should have spent some time screening her and seeing if she was a person you could spend time with.
She's obviously not a person you can chill with because she's far too easily influenced by her friends.
You are young, but you will soon learn to look behind the pretty face and see how much bullsh1t is stacked there.
Honestly man let it go, and try focusing on something else.
On a side note, girls thinking of you as a player is a GOOD thing! Trust me, I used to get it all the time. Its the line that came out directly after "How are you still single" and "how long have you been single?"
Scroll down, click the DJ bible link and start learning young'un.
