"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
TyTe`EyEs
Master Don Juan
I had one good friend my senior year. Better than zero I guess.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Life-Trainee
Master Don Juan
Spending a lot of time and fun moments with your targets is difinately a must which becomes more difficult as you get older because of time constrants,family, jobs, etc.
In my experience the people who are likeminded to me are more likely to become close friends than those who just share abstract interests and follow a different life path.
But in the beginning stages of friendships it's important to take interest in what your target is doing.
KillingTime
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thefonz
Master Don Juan
penkitten
Master Don Juan
choose qaulity over quanity.
Alpine
Master Don Juan
Have you tried joining a few outside school clubs and meet people?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
CableLight
Master Don Juan
Joking aside, it has been my understanding that the faster the thought about "having to make friends" leaves your mind, the faster you find them.
An amazing characteristic of animals, including humans, is our desire and instinct to find companions. This said, it sounds like you're looking too hard for something you don't know how to find.
What are your interests? Those who share them are, in my opinion, the easiest to befriend.
Play sports? Go to the gym and get in on a game.
Read? Hit a bookstore or, god forbid, the library.
Dance? Go to a dance.
Draw? Get in on a class or something.
Play music? Ask people to jam.
Look for things you have in common with people and know something about. There's a foundation and basis of conversation initiation (ah, poetry).
Going out to meet random people in random situations at random times produces random results. Going to specialized places with almost designated attendants is much more stable.