"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
trouble relating to people
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
TyTe`EyEs
Master Don Juan
I had one good friend my senior year. Better than zero I guess.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Life-Trainee
Master Don Juan
Spending a lot of time and fun moments with your targets is difinately a must which becomes more difficult as you get older because of time constrants,family, jobs, etc.
In my experience the people who are likeminded to me are more likely to become close friends than those who just share abstract interests and follow a different life path.
But in the beginning stages of friendships it's important to take interest in what your target is doing.
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thefonz
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penkitten
Master Don Juan
choose qaulity over quanity.
Alpine
Master Don Juan
Have you tried joining a few outside school clubs and meet people?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
CableLight
Master Don Juan
Joking aside, it has been my understanding that the faster the thought about "having to make friends" leaves your mind, the faster you find them.
An amazing characteristic of animals, including humans, is our desire and instinct to find companions. This said, it sounds like you're looking too hard for something you don't know how to find.
What are your interests? Those who share them are, in my opinion, the easiest to befriend.
Play sports? Go to the gym and get in on a game.
Read? Hit a bookstore or, god forbid, the library.
Dance? Go to a dance.
Draw? Get in on a class or something.
Play music? Ask people to jam.
Look for things you have in common with people and know something about. There's a foundation and basis of conversation initiation (ah, poetry).
Going out to meet random people in random situations at random times produces random results. Going to specialized places with almost designated attendants is much more stable.