"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
trouble relating to people
- Thread starter david90
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
TyTe`EyEs
Master Don Juan
I had one good friend my senior year. Better than zero I guess.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Life-Trainee
Master Don Juan
Spending a lot of time and fun moments with your targets is difinately a must which becomes more difficult as you get older because of time constrants,family, jobs, etc.
In my experience the people who are likeminded to me are more likely to become close friends than those who just share abstract interests and follow a different life path.
But in the beginning stages of friendships it's important to take interest in what your target is doing.
KillingTime
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thefonz
Master Don Juan
penkitten
Master Don Juan
choose qaulity over quanity.
Alpine
Master Don Juan
Have you tried joining a few outside school clubs and meet people?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
CableLight
Master Don Juan
Joking aside, it has been my understanding that the faster the thought about "having to make friends" leaves your mind, the faster you find them.
An amazing characteristic of animals, including humans, is our desire and instinct to find companions. This said, it sounds like you're looking too hard for something you don't know how to find.
What are your interests? Those who share them are, in my opinion, the easiest to befriend.
Play sports? Go to the gym and get in on a game.
Read? Hit a bookstore or, god forbid, the library.
Dance? Go to a dance.
Draw? Get in on a class or something.
Play music? Ask people to jam.
Look for things you have in common with people and know something about. There's a foundation and basis of conversation initiation (ah, poetry).
Going out to meet random people in random situations at random times produces random results. Going to specialized places with almost designated attendants is much more stable.