When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
who girls what the girl thinks at that point? no point in a fragile ego..Wisconsin144 said:I agree that it just sounds like a waste of time. You'll seem like a douche and be that annoying guy. Best thing to do is find a new girl with a higher interest level. Ghost the girl that seems uninterested. Why troll, what are we? 15?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
If you don't care what she thinks why on earth would you send her anything least of all your precious attention? Just shows you've got nothing better to do whilst she's probably getting boned by someone she is interested in.applegoo said:who girls what the girl thinks at that point? no point in a fragile ego..
:-) said:If you don't care what she thinks why on earth would you send her anything least of all your precious attention? Just shows you've got nothing better to do whilst she's probably getting boned by someone she is interested in.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
lol.applegoo said:just send anything, say, hey sexy b1tch and see if they reply, who cares if they don't. send a mass text to a bunch of girls in your phone list who you haven't seen in a while and just say hey sexy b1tch and see who replies
who cares what she thinks? Lol...it's just following an old leadWisconsin144 said:It's not that we're talking about a fragile ego. We're saying why say anything to her. She's not interested and if you keep sending her things all she's seeing is someone who is desperate for her attention and with nothing better to do in their life, pretty sad if you ask me.
Maintaining self-worth and dignity I would say.applegoo said:Your reply is all about protecting a fragile ego..
Yes. Anyway this thread was a bad idea and against what we have learned here.Maintaining self-worth and dignity I would say.
Again, if your dignity and self-worth is based on what some dumb chick thinks of you, that's a problem, IMO. I don't share that sentiment and if a girl ignores my text or something, it doesn't bother me or make me feel bad about myself. There's just no way we are gonna look at this the same.:-) said:Maintaining self-worth and dignity I would say.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
By texting a girl who flat out rejected you are lowering your self-worht and implying you don't respect yourself.applegoo said:Again, if your dignity and self-worth is based on what some dumb chick thinks of you, that's a problem, IMO. I don't share that sentiment and if a girl ignores my text or something, it doesn't bother me or make me feel bad about myself.
Suspens said:By texting a girl who flat out rejected you are lowering your self-worht and implying you don't respect yourself.
But I agree with you. If your communication just fizzled out or she just ignored a few of your texts in the past and no disrespect was involved, then that would be okay.
Were they from another country? :crackup: :crackup:prison/con.net said:You're looking in the wrong places, guys. I found out that one I was dating had another guy. She was beautiful and smart, and 35 years my junior, but so is the one who replaced her (a week after i dumped the first one). All that it took was run an ad on a dating site and I was buried in nurses, etc. who wanted to marry me, based upon one pic and a few emails.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.