Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
who girls what the girl thinks at that point? no point in a fragile ego..Wisconsin144 said:I agree that it just sounds like a waste of time. You'll seem like a douche and be that annoying guy. Best thing to do is find a new girl with a higher interest level. Ghost the girl that seems uninterested. Why troll, what are we? 15?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
If you don't care what she thinks why on earth would you send her anything least of all your precious attention? Just shows you've got nothing better to do whilst she's probably getting boned by someone she is interested in.applegoo said:who girls what the girl thinks at that point? no point in a fragile ego..
:-) said:If you don't care what she thinks why on earth would you send her anything least of all your precious attention? Just shows you've got nothing better to do whilst she's probably getting boned by someone she is interested in.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
lol.applegoo said:just send anything, say, hey sexy b1tch and see if they reply, who cares if they don't. send a mass text to a bunch of girls in your phone list who you haven't seen in a while and just say hey sexy b1tch and see who replies
who cares what she thinks? Lol...it's just following an old leadWisconsin144 said:It's not that we're talking about a fragile ego. We're saying why say anything to her. She's not interested and if you keep sending her things all she's seeing is someone who is desperate for her attention and with nothing better to do in their life, pretty sad if you ask me.
Maintaining self-worth and dignity I would say.applegoo said:Your reply is all about protecting a fragile ego..
Yes. Anyway this thread was a bad idea and against what we have learned here.Maintaining self-worth and dignity I would say.
Again, if your dignity and self-worth is based on what some dumb chick thinks of you, that's a problem, IMO. I don't share that sentiment and if a girl ignores my text or something, it doesn't bother me or make me feel bad about myself. There's just no way we are gonna look at this the same.:-) said:Maintaining self-worth and dignity I would say.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
By texting a girl who flat out rejected you are lowering your self-worht and implying you don't respect yourself.applegoo said:Again, if your dignity and self-worth is based on what some dumb chick thinks of you, that's a problem, IMO. I don't share that sentiment and if a girl ignores my text or something, it doesn't bother me or make me feel bad about myself.
Suspens said:By texting a girl who flat out rejected you are lowering your self-worht and implying you don't respect yourself.
But I agree with you. If your communication just fizzled out or she just ignored a few of your texts in the past and no disrespect was involved, then that would be okay.
Were they from another country? :crackup: :crackup:prison/con.net said:You're looking in the wrong places, guys. I found out that one I was dating had another guy. She was beautiful and smart, and 35 years my junior, but so is the one who replaced her (a week after i dumped the first one). All that it took was run an ad on a dating site and I was buried in nurses, etc. who wanted to marry me, based upon one pic and a few emails.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.