You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
This is great advice on how to treat a female friend, although I'm thinking the original poster is asking if he should treat girls he is ROMANTICALLY interested in as friends as a ploy to get in their pants.SnakeCharmer said:By Treat them like your male friends, most seductionists mean "don't put her on a pedestal unless you're willing to climb to sit beside her". This does not mean to loudly fart and saw "wow, I'll give it a four since I didn't have any warning it was coming...".
When I am with a platonic female friend, I don't get into the mushy crap of "you look stunning this evening" nor do I buy flowers, jewelry, or anything else that is possibly construed as a play to get in her undies. When she knocks on the door, I tell her "It's open" as I do with male friends. When she looks hot, I do my best to ignore it. (Lesson learned, try to find a female friend with smaller breasts if you like women with bigger breasts, mine drives me up the walls when she wears tight sweaters.)
Otherwise, forget that she is a woman. Treat her as a human, not as a gender. Invite her over, split a six pack (if you are of age). Play cards, Xbox, go out clubbing, shoot some pool, just don't treat her like she is a flower that must be handed like a flower.
No roughhousing, or anything like that. Just avoid both ends of the spectrum.
Yeah, you probably should treat a "female friend" like a male friend. The problem I see is that you might ask said friend for sex. Male friends don't have sex with each other so my advice would be don't pressure her. Just stafy friends.dynamicallyidle said: