Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
This is great advice on how to treat a female friend, although I'm thinking the original poster is asking if he should treat girls he is ROMANTICALLY interested in as friends as a ploy to get in their pants.SnakeCharmer said:By Treat them like your male friends, most seductionists mean "don't put her on a pedestal unless you're willing to climb to sit beside her". This does not mean to loudly fart and saw "wow, I'll give it a four since I didn't have any warning it was coming...".
When I am with a platonic female friend, I don't get into the mushy crap of "you look stunning this evening" nor do I buy flowers, jewelry, or anything else that is possibly construed as a play to get in her undies. When she knocks on the door, I tell her "It's open" as I do with male friends. When she looks hot, I do my best to ignore it. (Lesson learned, try to find a female friend with smaller breasts if you like women with bigger breasts, mine drives me up the walls when she wears tight sweaters.)
Otherwise, forget that she is a woman. Treat her as a human, not as a gender. Invite her over, split a six pack (if you are of age). Play cards, Xbox, go out clubbing, shoot some pool, just don't treat her like she is a flower that must be handed like a flower.
No roughhousing, or anything like that. Just avoid both ends of the spectrum.
Yeah, you probably should treat a "female friend" like a male friend. The problem I see is that you might ask said friend for sex. Male friends don't have sex with each other so my advice would be don't pressure her. Just stafy friends.dynamicallyidle said: