Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
This is great advice on how to treat a female friend, although I'm thinking the original poster is asking if he should treat girls he is ROMANTICALLY interested in as friends as a ploy to get in their pants.SnakeCharmer said:By Treat them like your male friends, most seductionists mean "don't put her on a pedestal unless you're willing to climb to sit beside her". This does not mean to loudly fart and saw "wow, I'll give it a four since I didn't have any warning it was coming...".
When I am with a platonic female friend, I don't get into the mushy crap of "you look stunning this evening" nor do I buy flowers, jewelry, or anything else that is possibly construed as a play to get in her undies. When she knocks on the door, I tell her "It's open" as I do with male friends. When she looks hot, I do my best to ignore it. (Lesson learned, try to find a female friend with smaller breasts if you like women with bigger breasts, mine drives me up the walls when she wears tight sweaters.)
Otherwise, forget that she is a woman. Treat her as a human, not as a gender. Invite her over, split a six pack (if you are of age). Play cards, Xbox, go out clubbing, shoot some pool, just don't treat her like she is a flower that must be handed like a flower.
No roughhousing, or anything like that. Just avoid both ends of the spectrum.
Yeah, you probably should treat a "female friend" like a male friend. The problem I see is that you might ask said friend for sex. Male friends don't have sex with each other so my advice would be don't pressure her. Just stafy friends.dynamicallyidle said: