You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Zimmerman should have kept his fat ass in the truck. If I am walking to the store tonight, and someone starts stalking me, I will beat their ass every time. What if it's a BPD ex? Gotta kill them first.Bokanovsky said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Following someone is not the same thing as stalking. It's only "stalking" if you are acting with malicious intent. There is nothing unusual or malicious about a neighbourhood watch volunteer, at a gated community that has recently suffered a number of break-ins, drawing his attention to a suspicious-looking outsider, who appears to be wandering aimlessly, checking out houses, in the middle of the night, in pouring rain.Malice said:
Bokanovsky said:
And then you'd get shot and I'd have little sympathy for you. Just because you feel someone is following you does not give you the right to assault them. Confronting them verbally? Sure. Attacking them? No.Malice said:
Bokanovsky said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Just like in the movies, right? Good luck.Malice said:
Now you know what Obama meant when he was talking about "change".BeginningDJ said:
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Danger said: