"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Trap of Yersterday/Tommorow

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I was reading the nre DJ Bible Redone, and red about "Traps". More specificly trap of yesterday and trap of tommorow.
The reason I am mentioning this here is becouse I have a habbit of falling for these traps all the fcking time. But yesterday I didn't. EVERY single time when I started thinking about, What happend and how it influenced me" I thought to my self "dont fall for the trap of yesterday. And every time I was starting to think about this girl I was too meet later that same evning and what we are gonna do, I reminded my self to "not fall for trap of tommorow". LIVE NOW! Thats what I was telling my self. Look around. Yersterday is not NOW. Tommorow is not Now. NOW IS NOW! Tommorow will come and Yesterday, fck yesterday! So I went doing my own thing, concetrating on just what is happening around me and shait like that and in the end I had GREAT NIGHT!
The reason I belive is becouse I didn't overanalysed what is gonna happen when I meet this girl or for the rest of the night. I didn't have any expectations. And so, I couldn't feel sad or anything if night didn't went too good. Cuz everything is above expectations since I didn't have any expectations. So night ended and I went home and sleept like a baby. :up:

So my final words, dont fall for trap of yasterday or tommorow!:nono:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Blue Dude said:
I was reading the nre DJ Bible Redone, and red about "Traps". More specificly trap of yesterday and trap of tommorow.
The reason I am mentioning this here is becouse I have a habbit of falling for these traps all the fcking time. But yesterday I didn't. EVERY single time when I started thinking about, What happend and how it influenced me" I thought to my self "dont fall for the trap of yesterday. And every time I was starting to think about this girl I was too meet later that same evning and what we are gonna do, I reminded my self to "not fall for trap of tommorow". LIVE NOW! Thats what I was telling my self. Look around. Yersterday is not NOW. Tommorow is not Now. NOW IS NOW! Tommorow will come and Yesterday, fck yesterday! So I went doing my own thing, concetrating on just what is happening around me and shait like that and in the end I had GREAT NIGHT!
The reason I belive is becouse I didn't overanalysed what is gonna happen when I meet this girl or for the rest of the night. I didn't have any expectations. And so, I couldn't feel sad or anything if night didn't went too good. Cuz everything is above expectations since I didn't have any expectations. So night ended and I went home and sleept like a baby. :up:

So my final words, dont fall for trap of yasterday or tommorow!:nono:
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I like the message, but you didnt write it too well.

I suggest rereading it and rewriting. Its a bit jumbled.


But yeah. I completely agree with you. Keep fighting it and live in the now. Its much better.
 
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Acting in the NOW, means there is No Opportunity Wasted. I completely agree with you, I live with tomorrow in mind, but my mind only cares about NOW.
 
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Why the hell do people quote entire posts? I'm getting sick of seeing it happen. The only reason to quote someone is to quote a specific part of their post in order to reference it directly. It's so pointless and such a waste of space to quote the entire damn thing.
 
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Well thanks for making it clear. It's actually a force of habit.

Next time: Could you please state your disatisfaction clearly? Without complaining like a woman?

Thanks hon.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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