"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Trans and gender binary. What do you make of them?

What do you make of trans and gender non-binary people?

  • These people are delusional

    Votes: 2 28.6%
  • They have a mental illness

    Votes: 1 14.3%
  • They're just people living life their way and we should respect them

    Votes: 2 28.6%
  • I don't understand it, but live and let live.

    Votes: 2 28.6%

  • Total voters
    7

Fzatf

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I'm of the position that you can pretend to be what you want but there are times reality needs to be utilized for decisions regarding these individuals. You can call yourself a toaster but at the end of the day, reality dictates the truth.

What's your position on these individuals? Do you respect preferred pronouns including the new ones such as ze? Do you raise your children to respect reality and learn to be okay with who they were born, or do you buy hormones and assist them with their gender transition? Are there two genders or several?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Bible_Belt

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If I had declared myself trans, I think I woild have done a lot better as an mma fighter. There is a dude who did that in Florida, and now he gets to fight girls. I have seen it in some high school sports, even. It is a lot easier for a boy to get a college scholarship when he competes against girls.
 

Who Dares Win

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Zero fvcks given as long as they do not create problems to normal people.
 

Fzatf

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Zero fvcks given as long as they do not create problems to normal people.
I understand the position. But there are times it needs to be addressed. When they want to use government provided healthcare in countries like Canada or the UK to transition. When they compete against women in competitive sports when they were born a man. When they use steroids to transition from female to male and continue to compete against women. When they demand you use their preferred pronoun in conversation. When they want to use the same restroom as a young girl when they use to be a man. These are issues that come up and it goes beyond it's their life they can live how they want to.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Who Dares Win

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I understand the position. But there are times it needs to be addressed. When they want to use government provided healthcare in countries like Canada or the UK to transition. When they compete against women in competitive sports when they were born a man. When they use steroids to transition from female to male and continue to compete against women. When they demand you use their preferred pronoun in conversation. When they want to use the same restroom as a young girl when they use to be a man. These are issues that come up and it goes beyond it's their life they can live how they want to.
If they need public money or special treatment, they are creating problems for my taste.
 
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