"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Trans and gender binary. What do you make of them?

What do you make of trans and gender non-binary people?

  • These people are delusional

    Votes: 2 28.6%
  • They have a mental illness

    Votes: 1 14.3%
  • They're just people living life their way and we should respect them

    Votes: 2 28.6%
  • I don't understand it, but live and let live.

    Votes: 2 28.6%

  • Total voters
    7

Fzatf

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I'm of the position that you can pretend to be what you want but there are times reality needs to be utilized for decisions regarding these individuals. You can call yourself a toaster but at the end of the day, reality dictates the truth.

What's your position on these individuals? Do you respect preferred pronouns including the new ones such as ze? Do you raise your children to respect reality and learn to be okay with who they were born, or do you buy hormones and assist them with their gender transition? Are there two genders or several?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If I had declared myself trans, I think I woild have done a lot better as an mma fighter. There is a dude who did that in Florida, and now he gets to fight girls. I have seen it in some high school sports, even. It is a lot easier for a boy to get a college scholarship when he competes against girls.
 

Who Dares Win

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Zero fvcks given as long as they do not create problems to normal people.
 

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Zero fvcks given as long as they do not create problems to normal people.
I understand the position. But there are times it needs to be addressed. When they want to use government provided healthcare in countries like Canada or the UK to transition. When they compete against women in competitive sports when they were born a man. When they use steroids to transition from female to male and continue to compete against women. When they demand you use their preferred pronoun in conversation. When they want to use the same restroom as a young girl when they use to be a man. These are issues that come up and it goes beyond it's their life they can live how they want to.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Who Dares Win

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I understand the position. But there are times it needs to be addressed. When they want to use government provided healthcare in countries like Canada or the UK to transition. When they compete against women in competitive sports when they were born a man. When they use steroids to transition from female to male and continue to compete against women. When they demand you use their preferred pronoun in conversation. When they want to use the same restroom as a young girl when they use to be a man. These are issues that come up and it goes beyond it's their life they can live how they want to.
If they need public money or special treatment, they are creating problems for my taste.
 
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