"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Train station DJing

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I was taking the train home from school early the other day, I think it was just about noon. I was kind of tired from a lot of heavy studying, and I didn't make sure to check out the girls around me. But then I noticed this pretty girl, about my age, was actually checking me out. When I caught her the second time she smiled as our eyes met. So did I, but as I said, I was pretty tired and not so convincing.

This would've been the perfect time to say 'hi'. Unfortunately the train came and we went to separate carriages. I think neither of us could resist the temptation of fleeing to safety. Unfortunately I chose the AFC way. I really wonder how I should've handled this.

How about some tips on those situations when you meet the eyes of a girl and you both smiles, but then all of a sudden the situation changes and you have to take your attention away from the girl and watch where you're going, whether it's for a train, or going to class or leaving for whatever other urgent business...
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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This article deals with my problem, to a certain extent. But what if we are taking the same train, and we'll probably both be on for at least half an hour? Should I go to her car right after I've had my ticket stamped? How should I approach her?
 

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Don't overanalyze the situation.
It is just a train. You are just a boy. She is just a girl.

You smile, she smiles, but you had to divert your attention - no biggie. You know where she's at. Once you have a moment, go up to her, say hi, smile, and let it flow.
 

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Luscious said:
Don't overanalyze the situation.
That's what my driving instructor said about me in traffic :p

Thanks for the advice. Just need to get out there, get the confidence. :up:
 
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